Mens missing spells

[TINA99999]

I have been with my partner for well over 1 year now but still i dont understand him.

When ever we disagree or i snap he walks out, ignores my calls and dosnt ring me, untill he finally will answer it after I have rang him over 20 times. He will then say hes out and he dosnt know what time or if he will be back tonight.

Now i think thats really unfair, I wouldnt dream of just cutting him out when we have disagreed and go on a missing.

Now I do my hardest even if i am right, just so i dont disagree with him because i just cant handle being cut off like that.

Does anyone have the same problem with there man, and why does he do it!!!

Tina, I have exactly the same problem from time to time.He storms ou leaving me with the kids. He has even phoned from a distance threatening suicide.
Then he comes home like nothing happened.
I have concluded mens brains are wired differently ( or not at all)
When he comes back after storming out he will not discuss whatever issue prompted the outburst in the first place.
See Viv's story above. Her hubby had an affair, left home, changed his mind and came home and is now in a bad mood and won't discuss it! Bloody cheek!
I think they just can't accept they are wrong.
Sorry this is so full of generalisations. My sisters hubby is not like this at all, but he is the only one I can think of.

I'm the one who storms out in our house! If we have a row, the kids have been horrid or whatever I slam the door and go out for a while, either for a walk or in the car. I usually take my mobile and do answer it (generally in tears) but its the only way I can get some space, our house just isn't big enough. Its very rare that DH ever walks out, he just stamps and shouts a lot.

Tina99999

I wish I could offer some insight but men confuse me still and I'm one of them.

Women confuse me even more.

I would say though that it sounds more like he isn't willing to deal with his emotions at the time and this way he can just blank them out and forget about it when he comes home.

This isn't quite the same, but I have on occasion had to leave the house just to cool down when dh and I have had a row. A bit of distance can sometimes just get things in perspective. However, I wouldn't stay away, and interestingly, since ds was born I haven't done this, because psychologically it feels as though I would be leaving ds. I think men do sometimes need space whereas us women need to talk about things. It's the old Mars/Venus thing - men go to their caves and women feel rejected.

TINA99999
My man does exactly the same thing... walks out of the house, straight in the car and disappears. He ignores the first two calls, then turns the phone off, then its back on and after a further half dozen calls he answers it.... and I get a similar answer: he is out, and he doesn't know when he will be back.
Next time YOU walk out, see how he likes it! I did that just the other day and it didn;'t half give him a fright!!