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Is it enough reason to break up?

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Daisybee3 · 12/12/2020 14:35

Met great man during lockdown - we spent about month together seeing each other all the time. He is good, but it’s still at the beginning stage. However since he started working he has no time. He works in casino so his work is usually evening / nights. Tonight (in 4 hours) we supposed to see each other and he now cancelled that they changed his shift and he is staying longer. Last time we saw each other was 10 days ago. Last time he was at mine he said he doesn’t want me to see other people and he wants to be with me. I agreed but now if I’m seeing him only once in two weeks I feel like our relationship will not progress and I can’t get to know him properly. He is great but I know him very little to know if he is “the one” but how am I supposed to concentrate on 1 person when I see him so little? Any advice

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Daisybee3 · 12/12/2020 14:37

Hope it makes sense - typing on my day at work being upset I won’t see him

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gobbynorthernbird · 12/12/2020 14:48

You can break up with someone for whatever reason you want.

Bananalanacake · 12/12/2020 15:13

I once dumped a man because he didn't know what Kafkaesque meant. You can say this isn't working for me.

Whydothedo · 12/12/2020 15:50

So he doesn't want you to see anyone else but he's also not willing to invest in you/meet your needs? Sounds like a catch.

I don't believe for one second that he can't make ANY free time to see you. There's a really good saying that goes (something like) 'If you're confused about the way he feels, he doesn't care'.

Cavaleer · 12/12/2020 16:07

I’d not be interested in this relationship. Find yourself somebody who is available

VettiyaIruken · 12/12/2020 16:09

"I'm not happy with this" is always a good enough reason to break up. What "this" is, is irrelevant.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/12/2020 16:10

If he were really into you, he would find a way to spend time together.

Shuffled · 12/12/2020 16:43

You don't need a reason to break up with someone past the fact that it isn’t working for you.

MaelyssQ · 12/12/2020 17:16

What does Kafkaesque mean?

OP tell him how you feel - that he's not making the effort to see you more often and because of that you're thinking of ending it. See what his reaction is. If he's shocked and upset there's your answer. Is the casino where he works fully open during Covid?

SmallBalloonAnimals · 12/12/2020 17:57

I once dumped a man because he didn't know what Kafkaesque meant

I once dumped a man because he ate his soup with a dessert spoon.

Dump for any reason you like.

lifestooshort123 · 12/12/2020 18:52

Strange sort of lockdown. Dump him, don't dump him - you don't sound happy with the set up.

IJustWantSomeBees · 13/12/2020 20:39

You deserve someone who is interested and invested in you. When you're invested in a relationship you make time, this guy isn't invested.

Also, you can break up for any reason you want to, obviously this situation doesn't feel right to you and you are completely justified to end it.

Treacletoots · 13/12/2020 20:43

Don't make someone your priority if you're not a priority to them.

Doesn't want you to see anyone else but then can't be arsed to see you himself? You know alarm bells should be ringing. You don't need us to tell you to swiftly move on from this one.

C0NNIE · 13/12/2020 21:12

@Whydothedo

So he doesn't want you to see anyone else but he's also not willing to invest in you/meet your needs? Sounds like a catch.

I don't believe for one second that he can't make ANY free time to see you. There's a really good saying that goes (something like) 'If you're confused about the way he feels, he doesn't care'.

This.
mamabearoz · 14/12/2020 04:50

Move on.

RosesandPumpkins · 14/12/2020 18:52

Yeah time to move on. No way would that be enough for me (or the majority of people!)

pinkdragons · 14/12/2020 19:23

Nah. No point being 'exclusive' if he can't find time to see you.
And this is the v beginning.. should be the honeymoon period, the good bit!

Plastichearts · 14/12/2020 19:27

I would have thought it would be very difficult to have a relationship with someone who works in a casino even in normal times.

Unicant · 14/12/2020 19:35

I would not be okay with only seeing someone every ten days. Its up to you what you want in a relationship and if this isn't it then yes you should break up with him. Im sure there are women who will not be bothered about long gaps in between seeing someone.. and there will also be guys out there who will be able to spend more time with you than this... so end it now and find someone more on the same page as you

Lampan · 14/12/2020 23:12

I once dumped someone who told me the ‘correct’ way to eat a banana.
I agree that if he was really into you he would find the time to see you. Move on, don’t waste time waiting to get to know him, he may not be worth it!

youvegottenminuteslynn · 14/12/2020 23:30

@Lampan

I once dumped someone who told me the ‘correct’ way to eat a banana. I agree that if he was really into you he would find the time to see you. Move on, don’t waste time waiting to get to know him, he may not be worth it!
I once dumped someone who told me the ‘correct’ way to eat a banana.

Is that a euphemism.

Someone I was dating called his cock a 'willy' and I just couldn't keep seeing him I cringed so hard. Didn't know I would react that way but the ick made itself known.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 14/12/2020 23:31

Meant to put a Grin after euphemism above. Without it I just sound like a prick! Grin

Lampan · 18/12/2020 18:05

@youvegottenminuteslynn no not a euphemism! Apparently you are supposed to peel them from the bottom not the stalk 🙄🙄🙄

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