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Distant inlaws

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Lullaby88 · 12/12/2020 11:44

I dont know if this generally how DIL's are treated, but I have found my inlaws to be incredibly distant. I told them i was pregnant and they were overjoyed.. but they call my husband on facetime and never ask how I am feeling, if I need anything? I also have a daughter and ofcourse they talk to her on facetime too and if her hair has been done nice or she has a nice outfit that I bought her my husband never mentions I got it he says yeah we got that the other day. It might sound daft but I feel I get no credit at all for anything. Thats just one example. It would sound way too petty if i talked to my husband about this. I think he would argue. I dont know if i am overthinking or expecting too much? If my hormones are playing up? I wish i was the type of person who just didnt care about peoples thoughts so much. Can someome advice me on how to handle these emotions? I feel so useless like i have no control of things and my feelings are usually confirmed when I get treated like no one cares.

OP posts:
Geppili · 12/12/2020 14:56

Maybe they are giving you your space? Maybe they are awkward. At least they have been positive about your pregnancy. Maybe you could FaceTime them?

Geppili · 12/12/2020 14:57

It sounds like these powerful feelings are from how your parents made you feel. I have these too.

Geppili · 12/12/2020 14:58

Rereading your op, the problem is not with your in laws. You feel your DH doesn't give you credit and talk you up?

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