Is it likely he will re-enter my life, after being pushed away due to depression.

[cazza1302]

Hi There,

Hope you're all ok. I'm really in need of some advice as I'm pretty heartbroken here. I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months. Everything was beautiful, we both had every quality we wished for in each other. Messaged morning untill night, laughed, called each other. He fell in love with me pretty quickly, half a month later after spending the weekend at his I did too. However, he had been having problems with work and began sliding into a low mood more and more. He said I was the only good thing to keep him going, and.i explained to him I believe I was in love with him too and to try get some help... a few hours later he decided to tell me that we should maybe leave things where that are before it gets deeper for both of us, as he's in love with me too but he's scared he's going to ruin this and end up hurting me, said I'm too special to get involved in how he feels and to find someone I deserve. After trying to talk him round and saying I would support him he thought it best to block me and try and concentrate on his mental health. He states he is making this decision to benefit me aswell as himself. He said he is absolutely heartbroken to let me go and will miss me. He was actually very tearful and even had to leave work.

How likely is it that he will decide to reach out to me again? I'm giving him the space he needs but the thought of not hearing from him again is killing me, as I know it will be him, if not more. We have gone to constant contact and an amazing bond that we've never experienced like no other, to nothing.

Thanks for any advice.

I’m in the same boat ... albeit 13 years together and pregnant.

This is a long way from being in the same boat, OP has been seeing someone for eight weeks.

OP, this relationship has all the hallmarks of love bombing. Have a read up on that and see if you can recognise the signs.

I once dated someone who declared his love for me after about three weeks, was telling friends I was the one after days, picking baby names out after five weeks. Fortunately he had healthy relationships with his family and friends so there was none of the slightly disturbing talk you have experienced and he never claimed I was the only worthwhile thing in his life. Nevertheless a few months later he ended things by email and I never saw him again. This was eighteen years ago and I didn’t know the term love bombing then, but I have since recognised that is what happened.

@cazza1302

Hi Lynn,

Thanks for everyone's responses. I don't feel I pressured him, im not that sort of person, i simply stated I would try and support him through it, as I am that kind of person. Obviously an hour before he decided on this he told I was the best thing in his life, I accepted his decision and am moving on, however it is hard as even as friends from the start we got on amazingly well, and it's a shame it has resorted to this.

If (big if) he really is depressed then talking him around is putting him under pressure. You need a whole different set of communication skills to support someone with depression. It’s very draining and not something anyone would do unless they were in a very committed relationship.

You are not moving on. You are hanging around waiting for him.

It has resorted to him breaking up. That’s not unusual 2 months in when the first flush of infatuation disappears. There really wasn’t anything there to lament.

Did you even meet him in rl ?

No matter how you think you feel you do not know this man.