Has anyone saved a marriage?

[BrokenBrit]

Just that really. Is it ever open to saving if one spouse feels the relationship has turned into a ‘best friends’ situation and it’s a now a case of ‘loves’ rather than ‘in love’.

Feeling like a grenade has gone off. Lovely happy marriage, no arguing, no real issues at all, and a happy family, and yet now this out of nowhere.

Apparently they want to work at it and want to get the feelings back... Says it may be partly down to work stresses. My heads a mess now.

@BrokenBrit

Those who said it was a affair were right. Too late to save it. My god the pain is unbearable.

I'm so sorry op

I’m sorry to hear this @BrokenBrit.

Do you want to say more about what’s happened ? There’s lots of support for you here.

Have you told some close friends / family for RL help? This is the time to reach out.

Sorry to hear this. Please talk about it if you need to

So sorry OP. How on Earth is anyone having an affair in 2020! I just don’t get it. Lockdown and social distancing. How is this even happening!! Don’t do the pick me dance OP. Make him leave. He’s really messed you around.

This is awful OP, hope you have some real life support right now. He is a shit and he needs to be out of your space so you can start to process this, reach out to family/friends whoever you can trust

So sorry - I got the same speech from my husband. Best advice I can give, and I know this is going to tear you up now, but will actually help you in the long run- LET HIM GO. Do not do anymore questioning or begging. Ask him to leave so you can process what’s happening. Tell someone in real life what’s happening, but keep those you tell small in number. Go no contact or essential contact only, if you have kids. Do not make any major decisions about your future yet. He will still have to pay his share of the mortgage, bills etc.
Right now you need space, time and perhaps therapy. When my husband did this to me my world collapsed. I couldn’t eat or sleep and I couldn’t control my emotions. Learn from the women on here who have been through the same. It will be hard but you can get through this and come out stronger then you thought possible.