Me and my best friend are quite different in personally, she is very extroverted, where as i'm abit of both but probably more introverted. I'm quite happy to have a night in alone where as she always feels she needs company or to be doing something, almost like she can't sit still.
Overall, she was always a great friend, we've been close for 10 years. We are 30 and 31 years old. Shes been there for me when I went through major heartbreak and i've always been there for her in the same way. But what I do notice about her, and that hasn't mostly involved me until the last few years... is that she will have a 'flavour of the month' friends or her 'favourites' she will be contacting and seeing, and then moving on to somebody else, then maybe back to the next person etc. But usually I was a 'constant' friend, who she would always be in touch with, either her calling me to say hello mainly or us messaging.
Now over the past few years, there has been times she has gone awol for no reason. I've called her out on it a couple of times, and shes always ended up feeling bad and saying she does care and does value me. The last time before now was around the first lockdown. We had a discussion because I wasn't happy about the lack of response when I messaged and how she just stopped making effort. And after that, things were great again, we were in contact again.
This past few weeks, for no reason atall, she has gone awol again. I messaged her the other day asking her how she was and she said she'd call me the following day and that all was well and she hoped I was ok. Well she didn't call me. And I felt abit upset about it, because we hadn't spoken for a week (unusual for us). I called her out on it a few days later and she responded saying she was sorry, had been busy and she would try and call another time. During this whole time, the last few weeks however, she is quite frequently on facebook.
So basically i'm not in her favourites category at the moment, although she claims I am her best friend. And i'm fed up. I don't have many friends or a partner, so when a friend is distant, it does cause me anxiety and upsets me.
Also, I do try to understand, but she is on and off with her boyfriend, and they have a very volatile relationship. They also spend days drinking together and the like, sometimes all night. But that hasn't stopped her being in touch in the past mostly or being very active on Social Media.
I just don't know what to do at this point, sometimes I distant myself, but I realise that helps nothing and I end up messaging her at some point. I don't want to loose her friendship, I just want her to stop disappointing me.