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I feel insecure

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BigFluffyBearr · 10/12/2020 15:11

Long story short. I have a 15 year old and a 22 month old and I'm 32 weeks pregnant. My DP is very supportive and happy about the pregnancy. However I feel insecure. I've had some issues with my pelvic floor and sex has been Confused and I think my DP might leave although I know he wont

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BigFluffyBearr · 10/12/2020 17:46

Anyone?

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Rockinmomma · 10/12/2020 18:14

It’s not unusual to feel insecure with all those hormones, did you feel this way with your other pregnancies? I’d say talk about it to DP so he can reassure you.
As for sex, I’m not surprised it’s Confused at 32 weeks

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BigFluffyBearr · 10/12/2020 18:16

Yea we have a very active sex lifeXmas Blush I will talk to him but I dont want to make a big deal of something when it's in my head.

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Aquamarine1029 · 10/12/2020 18:20

I will talk to him but I dont want to make a big deal of something when it's in my head.

Talking to him about how you're feeling isn't making a big deal out of anything. You're heavily pregnant, no doubt exhausted, and you deserve and need your partner's support. I think talking it through will help you feel better.

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BigFluffyBearr · 10/12/2020 18:22

Thanks. The pregnancy was a surprise although were happy it's taken some time to get used to it

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BigFluffyBearr · 10/12/2020 19:51

I was single throughout my other pregnancies so didnt feel like this

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Pinkglittery · 10/12/2020 20:23

I'm 31 weeks pregnant and actually I feel really insecure too. My DP is not the dad of my older kids. Pregnancy was a surprise, I was on the pill. He's been lovely and is very supportive and loving but it's silly things like nudity on tv makes me feel crap. I feel rubbish about my body. So similar to what you've said.
I actually think the issue comes from being vulnerable. If there was an issue previously, I could have called it a day and found someone new any time I wanted to. The fact I can't do that makes me feel like I'm at a disadvantage and I think that's root of my feelings. I don't know if you might identify with that or not?
Obviously the hormones don't help! I'm just kind of hoping that once I have the baby I will feel better. I'm sorry you are feeling this way too, it's rubbish.

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BigFluffyBearr · 10/12/2020 21:40

I think its just hormones. I dont want to leave at all.

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BigFluffyBearr · 11/12/2020 13:37

We spoke about it. I think honestly in the past I was used for sex and I feel like if we dont have it then he'll leave which is ridiculous. He couldn't believe i felt this way.

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