Apologies in advance for the long one, just hoping for some clarity/insight/advice?
I will preface this and say that i am 24YO - DP is 25YO and i am 6 months pregnant. Last night whilst sat on the sofa with DP - i burst in to tears. Not a common occurrence but when he asked what was wrong - i couldn't tell him. I didn't know what was wrong. Just felt really upset. I am blaming the pregnancy hormones!
I got up, went to get tissue and then when i came back into the living room - DP is sobbing. I ask him what is wrong and he said he doesn't know either, he is just not happy. I think me telling him i was upset at nothing in particular had set him off.
Over the last couple of days he has been in a terrible mood, not with me, just in general. Upset about his physical appearance, upset at his parents (we are currently living with them) and really miffed off about his shifts at work. I asked him if he was having cold feet about our relationship and having a baby but he says that our future together is the only thing he is looking forward to.
I am not sure that Covid has had a massive impact on his MH - we have been active, out walking, cooking good food and done nothing much out of the ordinary of what we usually do (other than a couple of cancelled holidays).
He has worked throughout both lockdowns and took on extra responsibility for 6 months when colleagues were off ill but has not been financially compensated for this. Other than this - feels lucky his job is secure.
At a 16 week scan we were informed of some abnormalities with our baby who has been diagnosed with a rather serious "disability" - DP has been great and a really rock during this time, he was really upset and i thought he had processed the information as he is extremely optimistic about LO's future but now questioning whether or not he really is okay with this.
Our housing situation has been a bit up in the air- we agreed purchase of a house and 4 months into buying after all the solicitors/surveyors/mortgage brokers had been paid the seller pulled out of the sale which cost us ££££'s in fees. We have found another house and in the process of buying but doesn't look like we will complete in time for LO's arrival which I am sure is playing on his mind as it is mine.
When first house fell through DP's parents insisted we stayed with them until we were sorted - however they are extremely over bearing and treat us both like little children. It has been a really hard adjustment and I can see it grating on DP.
I am just not sure what i can do to help, he can't tell me why he feels so down and doesn't want to talk about it when he doesn't know himself. He doesn't want to upset me with his problems and I'm just at a loss. What can i do to help my DP. He was really great when we were going through the thick of it a couple of months ago and now i feel okay and positive and he is crumbling 