So I have been in living hell for 3 years with massive amounts of emotional (and some physical) abuse from my partner, she was also aggressive to your baby (now 2). She has BPD/EUPD and I reached out to social services for help, but they did not do anything more than sending a kid over to your house and close the file.
So about 2 months ago I went and stayed with my parents and took the baby for around 10 days using covid as an excuse (GF was symptomatic) and my plan was to make my exit then. When I returned I found that she was 100% a different person, I was allowed to go out to the shops, she let me talk to my friends and stopped accusing me of cheating all the time.
Anyway, I have come to know that she has been going out on tinder dates. I can't say I am surprised because as you know the people that accuse you of cheating are normally the ones at it themself.
I found out she took our 2yo baby on a second date with one of the guys. I just can’t even start to imagine why someone would take such a risk with such a small child.
It’s a shame because I thought she had really changed; she has been such a lovely person for the last 4 or 5 weeks.
She does not know I know yet, I just need to carefully plan my next steps, but I think this will give me the push I needed.
Is taking a small child on a random date as bad as I think it is or am I overthinking it?