Spent the weekend with friend who has ASD. I fancy him, had heard that he fancied me, albeit back when we first met, some 20 years ago (!). He insisted on doing all the cooking, driving me around to places I wanted to go, even broke his general teetotal-ness to join me in a glass of wine. Nothing happened between us but it definitely felt like he was flirting at times, and I thought I responded in kind, although I am quite shy. We sat on the sofa together, lots of mirrored body language etc and he made a comment about feeling relaxed with me, but on the last night I was there, he seemed to withdraw and distance himself. We talked about online dating (which he’s been doing) and he said his lower age limit was two years older than what I am currently (he’s 10 years older than me) and he was looking for a clever woman, and I kind of took that to be a rejection because I am in no way geeky whereas he describes himself as a total geek.
I’ve read a bit about dating people with ASD and one common characteristic seems to be they go all-out to try to impress the person, which he was definitely doing the first couple of days. I’m now wondering if my own inability to read the signs/be more blatant meant he thought I wasn’t interested, hence pulling back. He lives a fair way away and with COVID I’m unlikely to get the chance to see him again for a few months. Anyone with experience of Aspie men able to tell me if I should be kicking myself right now??