Fallen out of love with DH, can I get it back?

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Got 2 children under 3, I returned to work full time after almost 2 years as a SAHM. DH been working from home. Money is ok (as in not an extra stress). Life is ok but not great. I get so much joy from my children and I enjoy my work although it is full on and can be stressful. But I have been feeling increasingly that I'm not in love with DH anymore. I don't really want to be intimate with him, I think I've completely lost my sex drive since DD2 was born a year a go.

Do we have any hope? It's this just symptomatic of this stage of life and this covid year?

Have you been here and come through the other side with marriage in tact?

Toddlers are massively hard work. Many Mothers lose their drive when children are small. It's because there are so many demands on you.

Is your husband doing his fair share of work at home?

i think it's symptomatic of having young children. I have 2, it's just such hard work and I'm a SAHM so don't have the pressure of work on top of things as you do. It's hard and scary to be faced with this issue, I'm there myself but I keep reading that you should never make any life changing decisions about your marriage in the first 5 years of your child's life whcih says to me that ages 0-5 years are tough on relationships which for us they have been. I'm hanging on in there and trying to see the lighter moments in our marriage. There definitely are some but am I in love with my husband? No, I really like him, value him, at times even love him but definitely not in love with him. After 20 years the wonder of him has I'm afraid been replaced with the wonder of our children. I hope that is enough for us to still enjoy one another's company in years to come.