How to reply to What would you like for Xmas?

[thelake]

So the rather annoying and not very D H sent me a WhatsApp yesterday saying What would you like for Xmas? He is not away and not back till the 20th December. I seriously am a little outraged. I actually don't care what I get, providing it has thought put into it and it isn't a chore. I ordered something for him weeks ago that is quite personal and an antique so special. How do I reply?! Do I just leave it.

You reply with some ideas of what you would like and calm down.

Are you not getting on in general- hence the not very “d” h?
Or is it just because he’s asked you what you want?
I’m not sure what’s wrong with asking to be fair...maybe he wants to get it right?
Would you usually not ask each other and guess?
It sounds like you have found a wonderful gift. But maybe he’s a bit stuck for ideas...it does happen!
Some years I have inspiration and get it right, others I really don’t. Either way, I don’t see asking you as problematic in and of itself..?

@category12

You reply with some ideas of what you would like and calm down.

This.

Send him some links to things you would like. Don’t set him unnecessary tests.

I think you need to grow up and bit. He's trying to do the right thing and get you something you want. You'd soon be moaning if he gets you something you don't want. Also, he's not leaving it until Christmas Eve like a lot of husbands do!

*a bit

Tell him what you want.
Or do as I did and buy what you want and give it to him to wrap (but will still hope for some surprises)

I’d reply with what I wanted for Christmas.
Or
Reply I wanted nothing, as I buy everything I want for myself :)

Give him a selection of ideas for things you would like. He can select and buy one. My DH can't do surprise gifts at all but I'm happy when I get something I want but wouldn't buy for myself.

Isn't it normal to ask people what they'd like for Christmas? There are SO many threads on here saying things like 'what was he THINKING?!' after Christmas. I'd much rather get ideas from my DP to see what kind of thing he'd like.

I think there must be something else going on in your relationship for this to have caused such a severe reaction.

A simple 'nothing in particular, surprise me!' would have done.

I would just send him links to say, 4 different things that would please you. That way you get what you want but it is a nice surprise on the day.
I have worked out that the two words some men dread hearing are "surprise me". Too vague.

Would you trust him to book your annual holiday? The country, area, hotel and amenities, without your input?