Am I right to be annoyed?

[Kenny36]

I am in a relationship for two years now. We have our fights but mostly it’s going well. Although there is one thing that bothers me a lot. He still has contact with an ex girlfriend. Apparently she is the only one of his exes that he ever really loved, that she is beautiful and everything about her is perfect. He likes all her photos on social media and sends her messages. I mentioned to him that it makes me feel uncomfortable but he says I’m being silly and that they are just friends. Well actually more than friends he said, like family. His family also like and comment on all her photos too. I feel like they would be delighted if they got back together. It is making me feel so bad about myself. He makes me feel inadequate when he mentions her. Am I overreacting?

Perhaps or I sometimes think is it him who is actually cheating and he is projecting onto me. I don’t know what to think anymore. On one hand I love him and on the other this relationship is giving me so much anxiety and that isn’t normal

I couldn't be able to stay with this prick. He's eroding your self esteem and not slowly! He's charging in on a digger with a full tank of diesel.

If she really is just a friend/like family and he knows you’re feeling insecure he should be introducing you to her and making you feel like she’s your friend too. I am friends with one of my ex’s and one of the first thing I did was introduced him to my husband. I also was very up front with my husband about why it hadn’t worked with the other guy and how there was no chemistry. Going on about how she was his only love is not a nice thing to say - it’s designed to make you feel insecure and in competition. As is the lack of introduction. He’s playing you.

Ok, I just caught up with you updates and she’s abroad, so perhaps you couldn’t be introduced, but he’s definitely using his friendship to keep you feeling insecure. You keep saying why do you bother with all this stress etc - you’re right. You must be a glutton for punishment.