Should I stay or should I go?

[Coco1700]

I'm 29 and I'm in a loving relationship with a great guy. The problem is, I just can't seem to get rid of this lingering feeling that things aren't quite right.

We've been together for about a year and a half and in that time we've had a couple of blips. Both times we managed to have a mature conversation about what was wrong (mainly that he could be better at communicating) and he's been doing everything he can to make me happier in the relationship.

He's a really lovely person - he's kind, genuine, smart, gorgeous and trustworthy. I just feel like something is missing, like we don't have the kind of connection I see between other couples. I think a lot of this boils down to us not really having that much of a laugh together. There are also some lingering communication problems, mainly in the way that he doesn't share anything that's going on in his life with me unless I directly ask him, and he finds chit chat pointless. I really crave day to day silliness and chats.

It makes me wonder if I'd be better off calling it a day in hope that I find that kind of connection with somebody else. But in the same moment I don't know if I'd be foolish to let a guy who is great in so many other ways go. Especially as I turn 30 next year and find myself worrying that if I let him go I could find myself single for a long time and I know I would like a family.

I just cannot see how he can be a great bloke at all. He would bore me stupid if we couldn't have a chat and a laugh, or discuss what's going on in his life.
Without communication you have nothing, it's an absolute must for a long term relationship.
If when all else is gone, looks, youth, you can have a laugh and talk for hours you have it made.
You'll be sitting in silence with this guy.
I'd be running like hell.

Don't let your age play a part in your decision. I didn't meet my husband until I was 31, married at 33 and have just had our first baby (at 35).

As much as he sounds like a lovely guy, if you feel that something is missing after being together for this long then there isn't really any chance that'll change at this point.

As hard as it would be, I'd personally move on as you don't want to end up wondering what might have been. Better to do it now than wait until after you start a family.

I probably made it sound worse than it is. We do of course chat about our lives, he just takes a bit more coaxing to share things about himself. I think on the other hand he wishes I would engage in more intelligent conversations about his interests - I try but I don't have much knowledge to add. Perhaps this is just a sign we're incompatible deep down. :(

I think you've said it.
You get along fine but you're just not right for each other.
This is what happens in the first year or so. You get over the initial excitement of being in a relationship and you start to see if you're really a good couple together.
It's hard when all it is is that you're not quite right for each other.