Hello
I've posted here before about my child's Father and his family.
For my child's whole life his Dad, his Dad's Mother and especially his Dad's grandmother have encouraged my Son to lie to me constantly, his Dad has gone out of his way to portray me to my Son as some kind of angry hot head that isn't allowed to know anything about what goes on there, he (his Dad) has pretended to be frightened of me himself and fabricates situations to say I am angry or may be angry with either my child or his Dad. He also goes out of his way to spoil any nice plans I have with my Son, it''s like he doesn't realise that if my child has a nice time with me then that isn't a threat to him.
All along the Dad's family have been supportive of this behaviour and also lie to me about things in front of my Son or encouraged my Son to lie to me. This come to a head at the start of this year when I asked my Son's Dad (on the advice of the school counsellor) to join me for joint counselling with the aim of co parenting better.. It was a fucking disaster, I did post about it here at the time, but since then the only thing that has picked me up is disengaging completely from any conversation with him and not giving him a single inch.
I feel so much better and more free, but with his family I haven't had these conversations I don't speak to them often and have managed to not speak to them at all this year, my problem is that they always send me vouchers for my birthday and Christmas, and I always send them a £60 restaurant voucher between them at Christmas as they eat out a lot together. I don't want to be confrontational but they wont have got the memo that their Son/ Grandson and I don't speak now and I really feel like dropping all of them off will be better for my well being. I don't want a reminder of their existence every special occasion.
They lied to me about my baby/ toddler/ child all the way through his life. They supported his dad handing him to his own GM every week for the majority of his contact time and pretended it was his Dad that would be looking after him. They asked me about special events I had booked for my Son if my son was looking forward to something with me and then sure enough those would be the events that his Dad would ruin. They supported him in spoiling a gift my Mum was getting for my Son for Christmas and when I caught them out on it the GM pretended it was actually her that bought him the toy first, when I know it wasn't.
It all sounds very petty but when you put it all together they spent all of my Son's early years undermining me and buying popularity with him at the expense of his relationship with me. I hate them.
Would I be a massive bastard to send their card back this year with no explanation? I don't want anything from them but the problems are all years old not recent, I just think this will be the final thread to cut so I don't think about any of them.