Please help, I think i've maybe ruined my relationship.

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He's not said anything, still talking but you know when you just get an instinct that he's not as keen as he once was.
Basically I got upset one night and told him a couple of things that had been on my mind regarding him , won't go into what.

But it basically looked like I was saying he was a dick, I wasn't there were just a couple of things that had been on my mind and wanted to get it off my chest.

We managed to sort them out and discuss them which is great, but the thing is he never seems to have anything bad to say towards me e.g. I was upset when you did xyz.

Anyway i've been trying my best since then to reassure him what an amazing boyfriend he is. This hasn't really happened before in the relationship, on a smaller scale yeah but I guess I had been having a little bit of doubt.

I do not want to lose him and I am genuinely happy with him, he said I had good reason to say what I had said and understood. Think every relationship has their moments and ups and downs.
He seems a little quieter since then but still in good spirits,can't tell if it's just in my mind.

It is hard to know if you were being a dick about what you said, or whether actually they are serious red flag behaviours, when you wont say.

But regardless, if one conversation about what is bothering you results i ruining the relationship, the relationship wasnt great anyway.

It's impossible to give relevant advice when we don't know what you said and why you said it. If he doesn't treat you well you should end it, because it certainly won't get any better.

I'd echo the pp. Him going quiet could be manipulation of your future behaviour OR you might have been out of order.

No way to tell without more information

He could be training you not to inconvenience him with your feelings in future or you could have been picking at him over something unwarranted.

It was just how he had been a bit irritable and snappy at times then stuff related to his ex, talking about her.

But think it's sorted now luckily.

This is a new relationship and you feel lonely. Thats not good either. YANBU to question him being Irritable and snappy. Yanbu to not like him taking about his ex to you. He shouldnt be doing that at all. Why would he even bring her up?

He's irritable and keeps talking about his ex. He isn't over her, throw this one back.