Was this abuse?

[XmasHollie]

When I was with my ex alot of the time he was lovely but... I had major 2nd thoughts about marrying but went through with it. When we were married he did the following....
When our child was 3 months old we went to see a family member about 30 mins away he didnt want to go so he drove me round the city for an hour making us late. He kept saying oh let's go left and then lets go right smiling.

He used to make his own food and leave me sat their with nothing to eat

I paid for my own mat leave. when I was on the unpaid part I used savings.

I don't think those incidents alone constitute abuse, but it was definitely shitty behaviour. Was there lots more incidents like this? At least he's an ex!

Well I think he had gambling issues aswell

I’m interested to know what has made you ask this now?

I fled DV/DA btw

I don’t think these incidents alone make it abuse but rather a pattern of behaviour. I remember a time with an abusive ex where he put the same Leona Lewis song on repeat for a 2 hour drive as he knew I didn’t like that one song on the cd x

I just think about it at times. He told me no one would ever love me like him. Before we got together I told him I had depression and he told me many men wouldn't want to know me because of it

The first one sounds like gaslighting/ deliberately sabotaging plans.

The other things don't sound great either.

Well done for leaving and maybe take a look at the Freedom Programme.