Sex after baby

[BruceAndMarley]

My DD is 14 weeks. I had an EMCS, and also suffering from PPD. It’s been rough.
I feel ready for sex again with my husband and I know he’s ready too as he’s mentioned it a few times and has bought protection, although, our little girl isn’t a great sleeper and the evening routine consists of me BF her to sleep after her bath, waiting till she’s in a deep sleep and lowering her into her snuzpod, she usually wakes up and i have to start all over . This usually brings me to 9:30/10 before she’s settled from starting at 7:15. Sometimes I have to sleep with her on my chest to get sleep.
My husband stays down stairs either on his Xbox or watching the TV after he’s bathed her and I generally don’t see him til he comes to bed at about 12 if he’s not at work.
How did you go about resuming your sex life after a baby ? I feel like I’m new to it all over again . This is our first child. I feel a little lost !

Didn't want to read and run. My honest advice would be schedule it, 'get it out the way' for the first time - accept it will be awkward and different at first, then start to build new habits. (Caveat - I only waited 2.5 weeks post birth, but I didn't have sex during 3rd trimester as I was really poorly and advised not to.)

My kids are older so it's been a while but I had sex within two weeks after each birth although if I could go back I'd wait a bit longer. It sounds like your normal routine is having sex when you go to bed? This may need rethought, sometimes you just have to seek any opportunity that the baby is sleeping, morning sex became much more common for us as well. You get so tired you just want to sleep at night.

Just get the first time over, it might not be amazing, but it will help a lot I realising that everything is okay, you have been told you can resume sexual activity?

I would look at your habit of spending evenings apart, this won't bode well in the long term, allocate time every evening to spend together maybe? Not necessarily to have sex, just to be together.

Congratulations on your little one.

Thanks ladies for your advise :)