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Would this bother you ?

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Tropicana218 · 05/12/2020 18:58

Say if you were watching a film and an almost naked woman came on and your DP said 'mmm, very nice' in front of you.?

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Changi · 05/12/2020 19:01

No, not at all.

As long as she was nice.

Alys20 · 05/12/2020 19:02

No, I would call him a predictable fuckwit and tell him it was his turn to make the tea.

Ohalrightthen · 05/12/2020 19:02

Nope, naked women are generally pretty nice.

OldWomanSaysThis · 05/12/2020 19:04

A regular film with gratuitous nudity? Naw.

MostDefinitelyNot · 05/12/2020 19:06

DP does this. But then again I also point out good looking men in front of him so fair is fair.

Meredithgrey1 · 05/12/2020 19:08

It would make me pretty hypocritical if I did mind. I mention good looking guys in films..

mbosnz · 05/12/2020 19:24

Nope. DH didn't become a corpse without eyes when he got married. Neither did I for that matter. . .

unicornparty · 05/12/2020 19:24

Nope. I do the same to men on tv.

Gyh863 · 05/12/2020 20:56

Yes!

Of course people still find others attractive etc but no need to point it out to you. Not on. I'd be wondering what his motivation was.....

HolyBuckets · 05/12/2020 20:59

No, we both do it.

Then we get our bare bellies out and poke each other's fat and laugh that we love food and wine too much to ever look like the people on tv.

Newwayofthinking · 05/12/2020 21:00

Gross

I see attractive men on TV, but I don't salivate over them in front of him, I have a bit more respect.

I would hate that done to me

SallySaidHi · 05/12/2020 21:01

How would he react if you did the same about an attractive man?

Hesfamousforit · 05/12/2020 21:04

I wouldn't like it.

TheGriffle · 05/12/2020 21:08

Wouldn't bother me. Dh generally has a comment when boobs appear on screen.

Florelei · 05/12/2020 21:14

Nah I would not like this at all. Yes I know he’s not dead and can still find others attractive but I don’t need to hear about it.

Sounds insensitive unless he knows you are ok with such talk.

AllChange2020 · 05/12/2020 21:20

Yes, it's disrespectful.

Dinosauraddict · 05/12/2020 21:24

My DH would never say that, completely disrespectful IMO. And I wouldn't say it about a semi naked man either!

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Tropicana218 · 05/12/2020 21:26

Yeah, I mean there's a big difference between saying 'yeah she's pretty/attractive', and saying that.

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Sunflower1970 · 05/12/2020 22:23

All good fun in a secure, loving relationship. Myself and my husband often comment on attractive people just as a jokey wind up

MyNameForToday1980 · 05/12/2020 22:27

I wouldn't think it was offensive, but it would indicate that DH was basic as fuck, and that's bother me.

MyNameForToday1980 · 05/12/2020 22:27

*That would... (Cheers autocorrect).

Shetoshe · 05/12/2020 22:30

I wouldn't like it. In previous relationships I wouldn't have cared at all but with my husband I'm quite sensitive to these things. I don't know why? Obviously I know he finds women attractive but I absolutely don't want to hear about it. I don't do it to him either, he wouldn't appreciate it and it feels disrespectful.

sunnysunshine40 · 06/12/2020 18:03

You should have said...."mmm I think so too"

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