Name changed for this just in case.
Hardly know where to start really.
I used to be good at making and being a friend. These days not so much.
I fear I’ve driven my friend away. We were very good friends at one point, life and circumstances and physical distance (opposite ends of country now) mean we haven’t been able to see each other for several years but we kept in touch. Very often at first but it’s gradually been waning and now I feel like I am a duty to her.
We used to be able to talk for hours about anything but I have been suffering from depression so not the most fun conversations I’ll admit.
She hasn’t said anything bad but is just much less chatty and is often not free to talk or even message.
I sent an upbeat message and I know she’s read it but I’ve had no reply. It’s been a while now which is really not like her.
On the other hand I am aware that she has a life and responsibilities and worries too and I am always available to listen to her and help if I can and I’m also worried if there’s something she’s dealing with that she is maybe not sure how to tell me but I can’t think of anything that she could tell me that would be a problem.
We’ve been there for each other through a lot and I’m scared the friendship is over but she’s too polite to say so.
I’ve read on here threads more from her side of things and I know a lot of women will avoid any kind of direct or confrontational so will simply be less available less chatty and let the friendship go that way.
I really don’t want to lose her as a friend but I know I can’t force her to stay in contact if she isn’t interested if I’m too much trouble for her.
I know friendships come and go over our lives and I’ve dealt with that before but I really don’t want to lose hers.