Should we pull out of house?

[PloddingAlong123]

Hello all

We are selling the current house and just wanted more space so are moving to a new house in a new area.

I am worried that mine and husband's relationship just isn't getting any better and I will be on the bones of my a$$ if we were to split after the move - i just could not afford the mortgage. But i could afford to live well in the home we currently own

Has anyone pulled out of a house purchase/sale due to splitting up? And if so, how much money did you lose?

I fear that after many years of marriage I have forgotten what my standards and boundaries are. I think the kids are just waiting for me to call time on it now and would likely be relieved if i did. Well, most of the kids.

Thank you for everyone's help. I really appreciate that you've taken time to help some stranger on the internet!

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Plodding along please come back and update this thread. Good luck,

I've been in your position as if I hadn't of found out that my ex was cheating on me I would of pulled out the sale anyway. Ours was drawn out as our house had to be put on the market and find a buyer and that took months. Just before I found out he was cheating I was desperately unhappy and knew I couldn't stay with him I found myself looking alternative smaller properties for sale just me and the kids.

I am safe but he can be emotionally abusive and self-centred just doesn't cover it.

@PinkCherry we are still going through it. It really will be crunch time at some point but I'm not sure it's going to be anytime soon. I would rather stay in the place we are in.

Stop this now OP ... 🌺

don't do it. my friend did this same exact thing, and about a week after her and her "d"h moved in, with boxes still unpacked, he asked for a divorce. she said she was hoping buying a house would make them closer/stronger but it was actually a wake up call for her "d"h (now ex husband)

it was a lot of work for her to settle the house situation. took a year and lots of back and forth.