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Breaching a Court Order

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Pebbledashery · 04/12/2020 15:57

Hi All -
Has anyone ever breached a court order for contact before and if so did it go back to Court and what happened?
Just need some advice on a potential situation I am going to be in.
Thanks

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MuthaHubbard · 04/12/2020 20:20

It can result in further conditions, a fine or imprisonment if deemed serious enough

WorrierorWarrior · 04/12/2020 21:35

I wonder which way you mean this.
Are you the parent with residence but the other parent has access and you intend to avoid that access taking place?
Are you the person with little or no access and you intend to attempt to see the children by force or coercion outwith the stated times?
I would not advise breaching a court order either way

SD1978 · 04/12/2020 21:59

It's really very dependent on why, and if you have back up that it's in the best interest of the child- advice of SW, etc. if there is no 'proof' juts your concern, it may be something that would not be seen positively by the court. Always best to ask a lawyer before doing anything.

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Pebbledashery · 04/12/2020 22:08

Well. Without being too outing. Interim contact was ordered after a first hearing. I was in a very very violent relationship with ex partner and he abused our daughter also physically and emotionally. We've had a couple of sessions in the community and after contact he's been stalking me. Dd has also been behaving so aggressively towards me. She spat at me and hit me in the face. He doesn't know where we live as we had to relocate completely due to the severity of the abuse and social services removed us from the county we lived in.. He will stop at nothing to make me feel intimidated. I asked for an urgent application to vary to order because cafcass got in touch with the court to ask them to suspend the order for interim contact based on multiple safeguarding concerns. I was going to stop contact on all these reasons but ex partners solicitor has been very bullying.

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GotOutAlive · 04/12/2020 23:04

OP, don't rely on advice from here - get some advice in RL.

If CAFCASS asked for the interim contact to be suspended then I'm not sure why you're asking on here? Ask your CAFCASS officer about suspending contact, not strangers who don't know your situation or family law.

I know what it's like when you're wanting answers and anxious about doing the wrong thing and getting into trouble from the Court. I've been in your situation. Don't be bullied by ex's solicitor, they're just carrying out his instructions, which he's paying them to do.

Contact Women's Aid and speak to people with experience of these types of proceedings -either their helpline or on their forums. And contact CAFCASS on Monday.

Dullardmullard · 04/12/2020 23:08

@GotOutAlive

OP, don't rely on advice from here - get some advice in RL.

If CAFCASS asked for the interim contact to be suspended then I'm not sure why you're asking on here? Ask your CAFCASS officer about suspending contact, not strangers who don't know your situation or family law.

I know what it's like when you're wanting answers and anxious about doing the wrong thing and getting into trouble from the Court. I've been in your situation. Don't be bullied by ex's solicitor, they're just carrying out his instructions, which he's paying them to do.

Contact Women's Aid and speak to people with experience of these types of proceedings -either their helpline or on their forums. And contact CAFCASS on Monday.

This with bells on

Plus if your who I think you are how the hell did it go to court so fast when your non mol wasn’t up till March

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Pebbledashery · 04/12/2020 23:18

The non mol isn't up until July. I know what you're saying but I just wanted to hear others experiences.. I wouldn't breach a court order it I really believed we were both at risk. When we separated I was still taking DD to see him supervised right up till we fled so I'm very focused on DDs best interest. Cafcass were deeply concerned about the interim contact. I'm just not safe with it being in the communities.

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notapizzaeater · 04/12/2020 23:22

Can he actually get in touch with you over the weekend ? Can you phone SS ? What's your solicitor say ?

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Pebbledashery · 04/12/2020 23:31

Solicitor said I should go so I'm not breaching the order and we'll put a request for a variation of the order so that contact is in a contact centre and supervised by cafcass not an independent. This independent social worker is so biased and so incompetent. Her last report was full of mistakes and she referred to DD as a completely different name throughout. My longer term thinking was that they've got the social worker on board and will make a request for her to write the section 7 on the basis she supervised contact. Nobody seems to be listening to cafcass. The judge went against everything they recommended in the first hearing completely and nobody's responded to their letter regarding safeguarding concerns. I just feel so defeated as the moment.

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