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What will his excuse be...?

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Exittotheright · 04/12/2020 11:35

Took my OHs car yesterday to go shopping, not unusual, it's bigger and easier to put the bags in.
Stopped off to collect my DS from the train station and was a bit early so grabbed a free paper. Looking in the car for a pen to do the crossword and what do I find but two mobile devices in the glove box. Never seen them before and he's never mentioned them before. Obviously not switched on.

I knew we'd be popping out together this morning so I was trying to think of a legitimate reason to open the glove box.
He said he needed new tyres on the car so I offered to get it done today as it's my day off knowing the locking wheel nut for the wheels is in the glove box! He starts rambling on about where the locking wheel nut could be, might be in the boot etc and I pointed out it's often in the glove box so why not check there first as we're both sat in the car. He then starts saying I'm in the way, which I'm not so I make a joke about it and said I'm not standing out in the cold for him to look. He then practically laid on my lap obscuring my view of the glove box while he makes a fuss about looking inside. All very strange. The locking nut is the found and glove box quickly shut. The locking nut is then handed to me. No surprise then when I go back out the two devices are still in the glove box. I will be taking them in the house later when I get home to ask what they are for.
I can't possibly think of a genuine reason to have two extra mobile phones in the glovebox.
I really don't need any bullshit fucking excuses.

OP posts:
Mydogmylife · 04/12/2020 17:39

Who cheated on you op, current partner or someone else? If someone else perhaps you need to keep an eye on projecting your fears onto the wrong person, this can go so badly wrong! If current partner, I think maybe you need to think whether you can really get over it, or are you always going to be on hyper alert for 'signs' it's an exhausting way to live. Good luck- I hope all goes well for you

Mydogmylife · 04/12/2020 17:42

Sorry, just seen your pp confirming it was a previous partner that cheated. Deffo projection then, although understandable. I'd have a chat with him, clear the air, then move forward

booboo24 · 04/12/2020 17:52

I would let this go now too, so glad it worked out. Don't get worked up trying to find all the ways this might not be innocent, when it clearly is.

Rollergirl11 · 04/12/2020 18:03

I think it sounds more and more like it’s innocent but you are still going to ask him about the phones in the glove box in a non-confrontational way, OP?

myhobbyisouting · 04/12/2020 19:46

I don't think he did act strangely. You were blocking the glove box from his angle if you were sat in the passenger seat.

The reason I'd asked whether they were charged was because I have two old dead phones in my glovebox too!

Regularsizedrudy · 04/12/2020 20:07

@myhobbyisouting he wanted her to get out the car to open the glove box!

Exittotheright · 04/12/2020 20:20

I have spoken with him, he said they were from his mum's and I'm confident this is the truth given the way he responded.
My history has made me paranoid today and I think I misread what happened this morning.
He gave me a big hug because he knows what I've been through.

OP posts:
Demitri · 04/12/2020 20:34

@Exittotheright

I have spoken with him, he said they were from his mum's and I'm confident this is the truth given the way he responded. My history has made me paranoid today and I think I misread what happened this morning. He gave me a big hug because he knows what I've been through.
Glad it was a good outcome op
FrenchtoEnglish · 04/12/2020 20:42

I like a happy ending!!!

CrazyCatLazy · 04/12/2020 20:53

@Exittotheright

I have spoken with him, he said they were from his mum's and I'm confident this is the truth given the way he responded. My history has made me paranoid today and I think I misread what happened this morning. He gave me a big hug because he knows what I've been through.
Brilliant, sounds like a very lovely man!
myhobbyisouting · 04/12/2020 21:39

"he wanted her to get out the car to open the glove box!"

Yes, and that's not strange. My knees and bag tend to fill the space in front of the glove box. I'd be properly in the way say there Grin

Glad you're ok OP and it was a false alarm!

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