Paid dating apps

[flowersrain]

I am currently on tinder, hinge, bumble and fb dating and I am losing the will to live. So many guys who just can't hold a conversation, only want a pen pal or who are after sex.

I am considering paying for an app - for those of you who have done this, is it worth it? Which ones would you recommend?

Is there any point in me subscribing now or should I wait until the tier restrictions lift? I really want to meet someone but it's so hard at the moment.

Times Elite and Guardian Soulmates are good but very London-centric.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation Guardian Soulmates has closed down unfortunately. I will have a look at Times Elite though, thank you. Do you think it is worth subscribing now or waiting until things open up?

I think you will find the same people popping up on the paid and free sites.

eHarmony? They use the same algorhythm that First Dates use

@crimsonlake I was hoping that the people on the paid sites might be more serious about a relationship. Do you not think that is the case?

I've tried Match and OLD. Old was truely awful, was purely a hook up site. Match seems to be better, but still a lot of idiots that either want dirty pictures or send endless messages, yawn.

[quote flowersrain]@EvenMoreFuriousVexation Guardian Soulmates has closed down unfortunately. I will have a look at Times Elite though, thank you. Do you think it is worth subscribing now or waiting until things open up?[/quote]
Think it might have closed too. Can't get any results from Google...

@Wannabegreenfingers even on the paid sites? Ugh how depressing

@flowersrain unfortunately so. My profile is very clear that I'm not looking for a hook up, but I still get plenty of time wasters.

I was given a good tip, to speak with a prospective date sooner rather than later. Match allows you to do this through the app so no need to give out your number (I'm not paid to promoteit or anything ).

It helps to weed out the time wasters and you get a feel for the person much quicker than hours of back and forth messages.

I've only managed one date, so I'm probably not the best person to give advise 🙃

I used eHarmony, great at filtering out the timewasters and been happily married with children for years now so I have a lot to thank them for, it felt like they really did match us up well and I am so glad I happened to see their advert and sign up. I did the free trial first then paid for a month. Two of our friends also met on eHarmony and they are married with a family now. I have friends who have met on tinder but cant speak for the success as each of them has been together less than a year.

Oh and on eHarmony you do get requests from people to go straight to chat rather than following their format and I just ignored these and treated that as a filter for people probably werent willing to invest time.

@GlitterandBalloons @Wannabegreenfingers thank you. I think I will give eHarmony and Match a try. Do you think it would be worth signing up now or waiting until things have opened up again? I want to meet someone but I also don't want to waste money if others have put their subscriptions on hold because of the tier restrictions etc

It's definitely ramped up since lockdown lifted. Even if in most areas you can technically only go for a walk still.

I second match and eharmony! They're very very different so I'd give both a try and see which you prefer, or do your research and start with one then move on to the next! I found match very exhausting as there's LOTS of people on there (at least there was where I lived!) x some great blokes but lots of dull guys too! I don't remember getting many rude messages! Eharmony had a very different feel-much more 'serious' etc! X

IME paid sites have mostly the same people as the free sites. I got nowhere with Match or eHarmony. I met my DP on Tinder. And while some guys on there still see it as just a hook up site, I feel it’s become more geared towards people looking for a relationship in this digital age. Tinder is far easier to set up and then swipe left and right. A lot of my friends get their partners on it as well, I was starting to lose hope for myself but then I gave it one last chance and got lucky. And really lucky at that as I normally limited my search criteria to a certain number of miles, I was messing about with it one day widening the search and he popped up at the maximum distance I had set so got in just under the wire 😂 he lived not too far away but in a place where I definitely wouldn’t have bumped into him if it wasn’t for Tinder. We’ve been together 2.5 years now, saving for a house and talking babies and lifetime commitment.