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Divorce can you help

14 replies

Samy2020F · 03/12/2020 20:00

Hello everyone

About 6 month ago my spouse and I split up and started a divorce procedure, the divorce will be pronounced soon. My wife has decided that before that date we should try to get our marriage another chance which is great. When we split up, we divided the properties so we both had one, my spouse sold the property and use the money. Should I be worried that we give it another go and then my spouse decides the divorce is the best option and ask for half my house? Please ley me know what you think. Thanks

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QuentinWinters · 03/12/2020 20:23

Why do you want to give it another go? Are the original issues leading to divorce resolved?
I think I'd be talking to a solicitor to see what the position is re: your house.

millymollymoomoo · 03/12/2020 20:31

I would be worried about that yes !

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Samy2020F · 03/12/2020 20:40

Hi yes we did talk but I can not think it can be fixed in 1 week specially since we didn't speak for month, I still have feeling and of course would like it to work but there is that little voice that is telling me be carful

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 03/12/2020 20:49

What do you want to do? Just because your DW wants to give it another go doesn't mean you have to, especially if the problems leading to the split still exist.

Notapheasantplucker · 03/12/2020 20:53

Yes, I think you should be very careful. Trust your gut instinct.

Jada1234 · 03/12/2020 23:51

I wouldn't trust her at all.

Suzi888 · 04/12/2020 05:53

Erm yes! So she’s squandered hers and now wants half of yours potentially.
See a solicitor.

User75908 · 04/12/2020 08:25

Did you get a financial order sorted before you split the assets op?

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Samy2020F · 04/12/2020 08:45

thank you everyone for your reply which are all going in the same direction, User75908 yes we did however until this is approved by the court it is valid

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TinyVictoriesInSurvival · 04/12/2020 09:02

Id be talking to your solicitor. Personally unless in joint names I would have been holding a lien or other legal claim over both properties until financial order was approved and everything was finalised. I think at this point if she's actually serious than she'll be happy to get the financial separation completed before trying again.
This is only fair to you if she's already sold the asset she agreed was a fair settlement. You can always get married again if it works out.

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Samy2020F · 04/12/2020 10:12

TinyVictoriesSurvival this is my worry she doesn't want the divorce to go ahead if it does happen she told me there is no point on us being together which is a big concern if it’s about love then marriage makes no difference?

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BrokenButFighting · 04/12/2020 20:00

I wouldn't make myself financially vulnerable to try and save a marriage where we'd gotten to the point of filing for divorce. I don't know if it's possible to complete the legal financial separation but not the divorce. Maybe that is an option to ask your solicitor about.

Id be thinking the same OP. If she genuinely wants to try again and still loves you and you've been fair to each other in the financial settlement then she should understand why you need to feel financially safe before trying again.

ChristmasFluff · 04/12/2020 21:37

Let the divorce go through whilst giving it another go.

If she genuinely wants you, she'll be fine with that. If its about money, she won't be

SD1978 · 04/12/2020 21:43

Is there a way to keep the financial settlement as it is, ring fence your property and the money she's made from selling her property? I'd be a bit worried if she suddenly had a significant amount of money and you a property regardless of maybe trying to reconcile I'd want that out of the way and not something you'd have to think about.

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