Break up during pregnancy

[DPblue]

I am 5 months pregnant and in the rage I said something very upsetting to my partner in response to his swearing at me. He cannot and will not forgive me that. I tried to explain that I was upset and he was not kind with his words, but he would not care. I slept 3 hours first night after arguing and since then I cannot stop crying. I cannot share this anyone and I don't know what to do. I worry for baby's wellbeing but I cannot stop my emotions and cannot function properly. I want to be strong for my baby but I cannot control my sadness. Its like everything just collapsed and I don't see bright future anymore. My family lives in the other country and the only thing left is to return to my parents as I will not be able to handle this by myself.

Why did he wear at you? What was the situation before you said something hurtful to him?

Have you spoken to him since? Has he said he is leaving you?

DPBlue, please tell your midwife what's happened and how you are feeling, they care about your mental health as well as your physical health. They might be able to help you access other support to help you locally either long term or until you move back to your parents country if you'd prefer that.

You can be a great mum on your own, you and your baby have a future together. Take care of yourself.

@MotherOfDragons85

Why did he wear at you? What was the situation before you said something hurtful to him?

Have you spoken to him since? Has he said he is leaving you?

A stupid day to day thing became a big argument out of nothing... Really nothing, like I listen to my music and cannot hear him talking to me. He does not talk to me since and said I cross the line with no return

@ThirdThoughts

DPBlue, please tell your midwife what's happened and how you are feeling, they care about your mental health as well as your physical health. They might be able to help you access other support to help you locally either long term or until you move back to your parents country if you'd prefer that.

You can be a great mum on your own, you and your baby have a future together. Take care of yourself.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am scared to report this to anyone.. I am scared it might go against me in the future e.g. If he decides to take a kid away this would be proof I was not stable.

Do you want to go home to your country ? Do it, before you have the baby. I had marriage problems but stayed with husband now forever stuck in this country. Well until my child is 18 yo. I cannot stress this enough. If he's unsupportive now then jump in the next plane outta there !!

He sounds unreasonable, you’re pregnant with his baby and he’s giving you the silent treatment - that’s not on.

Do you think he will support you and the baby?

“He sounds unreasonable, you’re pregnant with his baby and he’s giving you the silent treatment - that’s not on.”

This with bells on. Most couples argue from time to time. My DH and I have both occasionally, in anger, said some rotten things to each other. We apologise and move on. It takes a real bastard to behave the way he is behaving. It sounds to me like he’s just not very nice.

Omg I’m so sorry. No it won’t go against you if you tell your midwife your partner has left you and you will need extra support. Please take care of yourself

It sounds like you would be better off away from your partner, this isn’t all your fault