Sinking after break up

[Humperdoo]

I’ve had a lot of stress this year due to my exdh cheating on me and keeping me dangled for months (unfortunately I played the pick me dance).
This is now over, however I’m now more overweight than I ever have being (nearly 17stone!), am tired all the time, have no energy to do anything. I’m working from home and I’m sat in my dressing gown, barely working, house needs tidying, I need to get dressed and pick son up from my brothers soon.
I’m on 200mg of sertraline and stopped drinking alcohol 3 weeks ago, why am I not feeling better?

I keep trying to be good with my food but I’m just so tired!! I just want to spend all day in bed.

Sounds like you’re depressed and emotional eating, how long have you been on the sertraline? It could be a medication review is needed with the GP, as it’s possible they’re just not working for you, sometimes it’s trail and error with them.

Your eating will be making you feel even more sluggish, I’ve been here myself I know exactly how you’re feeling. Do you think you could manage forcing yourself to go for one walk a day? To the park or woods - something nature based. It will be hard and you will have to really push yourself to do it but it really DOES help.

Do you have any family or friends around for support other than your DS?

Oh OP, I'm sorry - first things first, thank god you've got rid of that piece of crap. Hopefully contact is non existent or minimal due to DC?

Next thing, start taking basic care of yourself. Have shower in the morning, have a cup of tea, put some uplifting music on, get dressed. These are small things, but when I'm really struggling I have to make a mental effort to do even the most basic things.

I know we are all sick of walks and the weather is horrible, but get out there even for a 10 minute brisk walk.

Do you have friends and family close by?

I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety since I had my ds and it’s got a hell of a lot worse this year with everything that’s being happening.
To be honest I feel ok about me and exdh, I’m not sad or anything but just really lethargic about life right now. Everything is a struggle. I know that exercise, eating healthy etc will make me feel better but I can’t even make that first step.
I had a healthy lunch today and felt good and then an hour later was tired and craving crap food.

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way perhaps small steps are the answer as thinking about all you should do, is perhaps overwhelming?

Maybe write a list of small things to do each day. When I got divorced (after exh cheated dumping me for a bunny boiler) I felt terrible and overwhelmed with even the smallest of things. Exercise really helped me as it makes you feel good and it got rid of all that awful nervous stomach tension. Try walking for 10 mins each day then build it up each day. Working at home is hard I know but regular breaks will help.

How old is your son?

Also have a look at the blood sugar diet- the food is fantastic and tasty and easy to cook. You’ll feel better after just a day or so on that.

How much setraline a day. 10mg? It takes 2 weeks to get into your system, But maybe you need more mg per day to begin with. Speak to your GP. Also speak to them about how tied you are and ask them to do a thyroid test.

Antidepressants can taken about 3 months to really start having an impact so keep going with them for now, are you getting enough sleep? You have to start out nice and slow with exercise, just start by going for a short walk everyday and build it up from there get a full blood test done at the docs too to see if there's a medical reason for your tiredness

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How much setraline a day. 10mg? It takes 2 weeks to get into your system, But maybe you need more mg per day to begin with. Speak to your GP. Also speak to them about how tied you are and ask them to do a thyroid test.

I'm on 200mg and have being taking it all year :(