Would you date a man who ...

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Following on from a similar thread would you date a man who was bankrupt due to divorce/losing his home to his exW and children in the recession but who works very very hard and repays all debts as soon as he can . He will be solvent soon but really lives from week to week after repaying monies owed ? He is mid forties, renting and also pays maintenance for his children.

Yes

Depends on how long he’s been divorced and also the language he used about his ex and money etc.

Like for example, he didn’t ‘lose’ his house surely - if his ex wife was the main carer for their children they all need a place to live, and better for the children to stay in the home they knew.

I would have a lot of questions? Which recession and how long has he been separated? Why did she get all the assets to the point where one gets a house and the other declares bankruptcy? What is his general attitude to money? I am a saver, and solvent so I wouldn't date anyone with money issues.

He speaks respectfully about his exW . He said she is an incredible mother but they fell out of love They are amicable .She works 2 days per week and gets carers for one of their children. He could not repay the massive mortgage and maintenance also as rents his own home and run two cars . So was advised to claim bankruptcy . I know little about the whole process.
His child with difficulties is independent now and attends schools and clubs . Divorced three years .

I was that man 12 years ago. Lost my business and home. Finally clawed my way back up to owning a little house and a happy simple life. I guess I'll never be in that financial position again but losing things makes you humble and turns you focus on to more important things. My girlfriend hasn't got a pot to piss in but we're very happy doing simple things. A day trip to Dorset can just as enriching as a trip to the south of France.