Me and my DH are like chalk and cheese - I am outgoing and quite laid back but he is a loner and introvert and can be a bit uptight.
This never used to be a problem and we would agree on most things anyway, we have never really argued. I guess because I have pretty much always given way to him.
However, as we have got older we seem to be pulling in different directions. DH seems to be turning into a grumpy old man and I am less willing to give way on things that are important to me (I don't really care about small things) - I definitely used to be a doormat and would always defer to him for a quiet life but I don't know, having DC and getting older makes me more opinionated (I guess that probably makes me a grumpy old woman 😂).
We never seem to agree on a single thing anymore and it is wearing me out.
We are in the process of moving house (hopefully in the first few weeks of January) and it has been fraught. Finding a house we both liked was torture - if I liked it, it was almost as if he had to hate it. We saw one in the summer that was perfect, absolutely perfect and I told him this but he disagreed- until it went under offer and suddenly it was the one that got away. He was the driver behind the move, I could have stayed here but he really wanted somewhere bigger (we are on top of each other and he really likes to have somewhere to get away from the hustle and bustle which is not happening now we are all at home more).
In the end we saw a house I LOVED but I kept that to myself, said it was a very nice house but not very practical, we should keep looking. Guess what? He decided that it was the best thing ever, better than the other house etc and we made an offer that was accepted (I was internally punching the air!).
I hate the fact I have to play games to get what I want. If I suggest something the default response is invariably "no".
He has a growing dislike for my friends and family. Lockdown has made it worse. I am not bothered too much by Christmas and so have agreed that we will bubble with his family but the principle of the thing annoys me - he outright refused to compromise on seeing some of my family over the Christmas holidays. It was his or nothing. Like I say, I wasn't actually that bothered (practically it would have been hard to work out a bubble that would suit everyone), what has bothered me is that he has almost taken this stance as a challenge to me, to get a reaction.
Since I have noticed his opposing stance it has become a huge thing to me - every day I notice that he has to disagree with me - what the DC are having for breakfast, when they get their advent calendar - little things that he will disagree with or overrule me on. We both WFH and so we are together ALL the time which doesn't help.
The trouble is, I am finding I am doing it back and I hate myself for it. It is so petty.
I have tried to broach the subject - the first time he disagreed that we disagree 
but I think even he has started to realise though and has backtracked on a few occasions.
We actually get on most of the time and have a laugh together but these little niggles are starting to piss me off.
I do worry though that we are moving in different directions - he has loved this year, working from home, not going anywhere, me being at home all the time. I have really missed my friends and family. I have missed going abroad on holiday but he is firmly "we are staying in the U.K. for the foreseeable". Again, I am not even that bothered about holidays next year as we are moving house and the virus will still be around - it is his stance that means it isn't even up for discussion that upsets me.
Can we nip this in the bud or is it too late?