Probably being too sensitive here

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I was invited to spend Christmas with my partner's family which I was very happy about. Then I was uninvited this week due to Covid, as they already had 3 households or whatever the latest rule is.
I was told that I couldn't spend Christmas Day with them, and I said that was totally fine, then I was later told I can't go there at all during the month of Dec. (boyfriend lives at home).

Boyfriend moved in for lockdown, is leaving tomorrow and said that Dec is a busy month so he'll 'see me in January'.

It's true he has got things planned and I totally respect that I can't always be the priority. However, to say that he can't even find a day, even a few hours in the entire month seems a bit odd.
He then said 'well we have just spent a whole month together' and that is true, he just didn't seem that bothered.
I know a month isn't forever, it could be a lot worse but I think that people move mountains to see the ones they love and it doesn't need to be a full month, we aren't living a million miles away.
Anyway I told him this and he then backtracked saying we could find a day to meet.
How would you feel in this situation ? Please be gentle, we have just never spent that length of time apart before.

He has stayed at yours for a month and now will be too busy to see you for the whole of December?

Did he step up money wise while with you? Share food costs etc?

Sounds like he is seeing this as something really casual where he can stay at yours for a nice couple month and then dump you off for a month!

He should WANT to see you. He is being clear where you are in his priorities. Don't let him treat you like this. Stop trying. Make him make some effort.

You can do much better.

Got together during a strict pandemic, but won't see you at Christmas because of 'rules'?

I agree with this. I mean, you've already broken the rules (no judgement, just saying) so seems weird that he'd decide to be chief enforcer now. And anyway, since he's already been living with you I think you'd count as a single household right now.

I'm not spending Xmas with my partner this year because of covid (long story but ended up being a compromise for the sake of parents) but the idea of going a month without even suggesting meeting up is quite strange. Especially if you live locally.

How far away does he live?

Yeah I'd say this is the beginning of the end OP. As a PP said I think this is a slow fade and he's just hoping to phase you out without having to do anything.

It's still early days so I'd just send a message saying you don't think this is going to work out and you wish him well for the future. Then move on.

Wow, no.

7 months... you should still be pretty damn keen to spend time together. Simply being ok with putting you on ice for a month means he really doesn't give much of a shit. Don't try and dress it up as anything else, you'll almost certainly regret it a year down the line when you cut your losses.

Look at actions not words. It's really, really significant that once it's got to Christmas and the time when folk generally make an effort, want to plan things... he's got bigger fish to fry (Yes, I know it's different because of covid, but still). Sounds like you are a great option to keep him company and for sex, but when busy social December comes round... oh, see you in January.

Fuck that!!! He's just not that into you. This is your big warning. It's shit, sorry. But first Christmas as a couple and he isn't interested? No. Find someone excited to be with you and share things with you.