Insane celebrity crush

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I am 38, I realise what I am about to post is ridiculous.

Just in case this is relevant at all, I have a partner who I am very attracted to. I've also never been a flirtatious person, I only mention that because I once had a friend who was v flirty and she always seemed to be going crazy over a crush on someone. Again just in case this is relevant at all I've always either been single or in a relationship..never really dating scene or playing the field etc. What I am trying to say is that obviously there are attractive people all over the place but I've never really been the type to be bothered/interested and have only got into relationships when I've known/connected with someone.

About 3 years ago I saw a picture of a celebrity I have known of for years beforehand and never really thought about. For some reason I just kind of thought they were perfect looking and have barely stopped thinking about them since. They play a sport and I watch endless videos of them and look at pictures of them all the time.

Now obviously I know crushing on celebrities is a thing but why am I doing it this much and just on one person, Usually when people are the type to have celeb crushes isn't it more than one and not all day every day?

My DP knows I am a fan of this person, so is he...not for the same reasons as far as I know XD Sometimes he will jokingly ask me, oh so do you think he is handsome? I always change the subject and brush it off because I feel guilty...it's so much more intense than just thinking, oh that man is handsome. If I thought my DP was staring at piks/videos of the same person every single day I would be really hurt.

Covid aside my life has not been easy these last few years and I can only assume this is a symptom of that. I would say I am obsessed really

Just FYI I have no interest in contacting/seeking out the real person nor do I think me and them are meant to be or anything like that. I think that maybe when my life has got into a bad place I see this person as the opposite of all my problems and I am sort looking to them for inspiration?

I feel alot better and clearer for typing that out, so if you got to the end, thank you!

Who is it?

It's a form of escapism, similar to people who fantasise about winning the lottery in minute detail or becoming a YouTube celebrity or anything else that's unlikely to happen.

Have you heard of 'maladaptive daydreaming'? That's also a similar sort of thing.

It's harmless unless it stops you doing other things or becomes an excuse for not taking action to sort out what's wrong in your real life (where that's possible).

It isn't something to feel guilty about but consider whether (Covid aside) there is anything you can do more constructively to improve your real life rather than avoiding your problems by sheltering in fantasy.

I call Ronaldo 🤣

It’s AJ isn’t it?

@WitchesSpelleas I have heard of maladaptive daydreaming yes, I think that's kind of what has happened here. I think I feel guilty because I've mixed it up with just fancying someone. As my personal problems have evolved I suppose that's how I've got more focused on the escapism aspect.

Time to sort things out a bit!

@Brieminewine AJ?

@AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit Haha Ronaldo is pretty but not the victim of my daydreaming in this case.

I need to know who it is!

I have always daydreamed/fantasised- didn't realise it was called maladaptive

I watch a lot of a particular 'sport' due to the DC watching it and there are some bloody hot men on there - difficult to not notice and develop crushes. Always thought it normal but have always done the fantasizing for as long as I can remember. Think Bros and NKOTB were the first targets showing my age

Just tell us who

As long as you arnt obsessing over Gareth who lives at No 36 or Brian the window cleaner then I dont think its going to hurt anyone.

Is it David Dickinson?

Hey op i also suffer from maladaptive daydreaming.

My latest obsession is comedians, i fancied Frankie Boyle for about 5 years but now my brains switched!

I'm happy with DH, it's just a form of escapism for me.

I doubt men feel guilty when ahem thinking of their celebrity crushes!

I have something similar for tom felton. Not all day lol but he makes little guitar videos that upload to youtube, often daily, and I always have to watch them. Just something about him, he makes me feel happy.

I guess it's a crush bit theres also the element of safety in familararity. No matter how tough the day is, he'll have made a wee video to watch:)

It's odd the tangents crushes go on sometimes.

I dont think its unhealthy to daydream either. Let's be fair, sometimes its the best part of the day :)