Counselling recommendations after NPD/EA, please?

[WheelsInMotion]

After going round in circles over why I've been drawn like a moth to flame to this type of man/relationship, I've finally concluded that I'm in need of therapy to help come to terms with the abuse. I've been relying far too much on unhealthy outlets like alcohol and excessive social media use to ignore the devastating effects it's had on me. The pandemic has only amplified everything.

Would anyone be able to recommend a reputable counselling service? And has this helped you to overcome/lessen the damage the abuse and unhealthy coping mechanisms have had on you? I also feel I have to take some accountability as to why I've allowed this toxicity into my life/to go on as far as it has.

I'm also thinking about blocking an ex (not DC's dad) who I have recently acknowledged is a Narc. Feeling guilty - not sure why I should still have any feelings as he's deeply dysfunctional - but feel this could only be in my best interests. Is blocking advisable?

Thank you in advance for your response.

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Blocking is always advisable.

Not counciling but I would recommend learning as much as you can about NPD and how to spot these ppl. Knowledge is power and it will help you feel better about moving forwards if you know you can trust yourself to spot their kind early in future.
Melanie tonia Evan's does good youtube videos.

And make sure to do refreshers in future, eg: before you start dating again or even things like before starting a new job or when you're making new pals. As these sorts are prevalent in all walks of life unfortunately. And often if we have them in one capacity such as a bf, we have had it will have them in others (eg: parents or friends).

Basically learning constant vigilance about the sort of people you allow into your life.

Counciling around unhealthy habits such as drinking and to help improve your self esteem also sound like a good move. But remember not to be so hard on yourself, narcissists and similar actially arent fussy who they target and have the ability to find the right buttons to push to break down anyone, given enough time and proximity. But if you can spot them early and get shot, that's half the battle.

Thanks @Bunnymumy .. Am well shot. It does concern me what might follow blocking. How naive was I to associate with a borderline sociopath/psychopath in the first place?!