2nd date if no initial spark?

[Rumble6]

I went on a tinder date today. My first date after my wife and I separated after 10 years together. I had been chatting to this woman on tinder for a few weeks and we decided to go for a walk today (I’m also female). She was lovely and attractive and very chatty but I didn’t feel a massive spark. I was sure she hadn’t either (we had spoke before and she said it was very important to her for that initial connection to be there) but she messaged after saying she had really enjoyed herself and would like to see me again.
It was a nice date but it all felt very ‘new’ to me and that was my overwhelming feeling rather than any massive feelings towards her. I also felt that a daytime walk in the cold wasn’t the cosiest setting for any sort of romance.
Should I see her again? I’m in 2 minds but I also feel like I’m quite new to dating and I can’t expect everyone to blow me away completely. I’m not sure if my feelings of “ I’m on a date with someone else” just kinda took over and I should maybe see her again to see if the feelings grow.
I’m sure I sound like a teenager but I’m mid 30s and she is slightly older.

I generally give someone a second date even if I didn't feel the 'spark', as long as they didn't repulse me. Attraction can grow over time and I have found in the past that the 'spark' has led me to choose inappropriate men and has blinded me to red flags so the spark is not always a good thing. Also a walk as a date is so difficult because there is limited eye contact, body language etc so potential for flirting is minimised. What have you got to lose by seeing her a second time?

I know lots of people who ended up marrying the person they deliberated over a second date with!

I think 'spark' isn't always instant. Also normally you might get that from getting dressed up, feeling and looking your best and having a couple of beers/a cocktail/glass of wine and feeling a bit looser and brave. Covid dating is great in some ways as you are stripping a lot of that back but you cant compare it to other dates you have had really.

I'd go for it, what do you have to loose. Feeling a spark with a stranger in a park after 1-2 hours might be ambitious x

I think it's worth another date. It could take a second or third date for things to warm up. As long as there are no red flags. Again I know people who gave an average 1st date another chance and have ended up happily married.

Sometimes I think with OLD it's just too easy to go next when the first date isn't a sweep you off your feet moment!

I'd give it a try! Agreed that a walk in the cold with someone you've never met is not the most romantic of situations but the way you describe her sounds promising, plus if she's messaged afterwards saying she wants to see you again (as opposed to saying it at the end of the date out of politeness) it shows she likely thought similar things about you.

I would give her a chance and see how things go. That spark doesn’t always appear immediately but it doesn’t mean it won’t. It sounds like you had a good time and enjoyed her company so I would just see how the next few dates go. Good luck! 😊

I’d go for a second date.

Can I ask, when did you separate from your wife? And was it amicable? I’m wondering if you might be feeling a bit bruised from the separation and maybe not as open to dating as you think. Plus covid dating changes things a lot.