Not asking anything

[Wintertime1973]

Hello,

I have met someone new but he doesn't ask me anything about my life or when messaging he doesn't ask how my day is etc... ( even though I always ask him ).

He states my private life is my private life, that's why he doesn't ask!!

He doesn't even know my surname.

I get the feeling this is not normal, he is not interested and it's just about sex, am I right to think this?

Yes. If he's not interested in you as a person at this stage, he never will be.

What’s the point in that?

Have you actually met him yet?

He doesn't sound very interested

I generally agree with PPs. Sounds like you have a strong gut feeling and I'm not sure if you have met in person or just been messaging.

However, could this be cultural? Are you from different backgrounds? I was with a guy like this. He had the kindest heart but simply never asked me anything. The reason ended up being that in his culture it is considered very rude to pry and ask questions whereas in mine (I'm white and English), the opposite is almost true. It is considered rude not to take an active interest. In his culture, he said that generally people offer information first to start a subject off, whereas for me, I would be worried about talking about myself too much and veer towards drawing the other person out with questions about themselves.

If you tell him something, say a chatty update on your day or something funny that has happened, what happens? Does he pick up the conversational thread or just leave you hanging? That would be the key for me.

That said, it was wearing and it did feel like he wasn't interested even though I knew he cared about me. In the end I wanted conversation that flowed.

Of course, it could just be that this man is boring/ uninterested.

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply, I have met him three times and it's all about him or sex.
Sex is always about his needs...

He was also getting my name wrong and no apology when I corrected him.

I asked him if it was due to his culture ( not English) but he says it isn't.

I wish he would just be honest.

Time to say goodbye to him....

Please make it a rule to not have sex with someone that can't get your name right. It's a minimum requirement and what you have between your legs is worth that much effort at the very least.

😂 @baileys6904
I agree!