Is your partner your best friend?

[MeMarmite]

And do you think this is a healthy thing?

Lockdown has seen my partner and I both lose some friendships, sadly. Long distance, frayed nerves, and it not being so easy to smooth over difficulties with a takeaway and bottle of wine, etc.

We've realised that we've grown to depend on a much smaller group of people, with each of us being the most prominent support to the other.

I think it's fine, and that it makes sense to consider one another our best friends, but she's wondering if it might make our relationship too insular.

I was interested in others' opinions.

200% YES!!! I've got lots of friends by he's but he's my number one wingman, confidante and all time go to. Love my girlfriends but even after 20 years, no one understands me like him. We've been through so much and still have a cracking laugh.

But...We get on each other's nerves, shout and screen like the best of them but, always kiss and make up (sometimes a few days later) but hayho, that's our marriage.

Yes. He's not my only friend but he is my best friend. We spend all of our time together and probably are too dependent on one another, but it works for us. I can't think of anyone else I'd rather spend time with than him

Yes, he's the best friend I've ever had and my favourite person in the world. After 10 years we still piss ourselves laughing together.

Yes he's my best friend, he knows me better than anyone in the world (and vice-verses) and I can 100% be myself around him. He is not my only friend but definitely my best friend

Yes but i would say he is one of my best friends - we support each other, we have a lot of fun, we know each other very well (as well as love each other) but there are more conditions on our relationship than with my two female best friends and in some ways I’m more honest with my female best friends. I’ve found since having DC that he no longer really understands what life is like for me and probably the same as me for him whereas my female best friends do understand in a different way.

My husband is my best friend.

No .... and I'm not sure I really have a 'best friend', I have a small number of very good close (female) friends and that's how I like it.

I've been married over 30 years and I wouldn't call my DH my 'best friend' and would hate to be co-dependent on each other.

I’m about ready to put him under the bastard decking. I’m shielding, he’s isolating, he’s getting on my last nerve 4 days straight together. He’ll stand outside the bathroom & talk shit whilst I go to the toilet. I need space or I’m gunna become homicidal.

Yes

Absolutely. He is my absolute best friend. I have other ‘best/Close’ friends who I couldn’t live without, but DH is top of the list. I think it’s because we evolve with each other! We’ve been together since I was 18 (so 15 years) and have experienced lots of life experiences together. So first it was uni and the lack of money that came with it, then it was getting a house together, then it was getting good jobs that meant we could live the ‘high life’ together, then it was mariage and now it’s two weeks of being new parents.

Yes 100% been with him for ever and he know me like no one else does, and vice versa

@neondragonfly

200% YES!!! I've got lots of friends by he's but he's my number one wingman, confidante and all time go to. Love my girlfriends but even after 20 years, no one understands me like him. We've been through so much and still have a cracking laugh.

But...We get on each other's nerves, shout and screen like the best of them but, always kiss and make up (sometimes a few days later) but hayho, that's our marriage.

Your wingman?? Are you sure that's the term you want? Each to their own, mind

Well, he’s my best husband...

My husband is my best friend. I tell him everything. He has seen me at my best and my worst. He supports me in everything I do. He is the only person I like to spend my time with. I have friends but can only handle them in small doses as they drain me. I hate the whole husband bashing they go on with.

My DP is my best friend, he knows.me better than anyone. We were friends before we got together and we dont always get on but he is definitely my best friend and I am his.

"Best friend" just doesn't feel right. There is more to our relationship than being "best friends". He's the human being I'm closest to in the world, though.

Yeah, he's my best and longest mate. And I'm his. We have other friends, and of course we have a unique to us relationship, because we're also husband and wife (and also working for the same company), but he's the first person I go to for a laugh, or for a cry, and he's the same. We've got 29 years of the same water under the same bridge. . .

Yes!

Absolutely, we are both women though so that may make a difference.

@Ragwort

No .... and I'm not sure I really have a 'best friend', I have a small number of very good close (female) friends and that's how I like it.

I've been married over 30 years and I wouldn't call my DH my 'best friend' and would hate to be co-dependent on each other.

I could have written this myself

Yes he is. I can tell him anything and he's an excellent listener. He in turn can tell me anything and I listen to him. He's an absolutely amazing man.

No. He’s the love of my life, but he’s not my best friend, he’s my partner. Wouldn’t have it any other way.

Absolutely!

My husband is definitely my best friend. He's the only person I can spend a lot of time with and not get sick of. We both have strong friendships with other people but ultimately he's my best friend.

Yes he is. We've only been together a year which I know sounds ridiculous, but I don't remember not knowing him.

We're not each other's only friends, which I think is important, but there's nothing I couldn't or wouldn't talk to him about. I've never been this comfortable with anybody before in my life (including my XH).