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Linzalmond0709 · 24/11/2020 22:49

I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years. I have a 13 yr old and a 11yr old with learning disabilities. My partner expects me to spend more time with him than I want. I love him but after dealing with my son and eventually putting him to bed, I like my own time. I make sure I see him 3 times a week. 2 years in I split with him and he tried committing suicide and got section (he finds it funny so I’m unsure how to feel about this). My partner has got mental health issues and I do help where I can. But I feel like I’m with him now because I’m scared to part from him. I’m not happy at all and I would be happy on my own though I would like to be friends. Although he refused that last time. I’m unsure of what to do. It makes things difficult as we don’t live together but he is my next door neighbour. I genuinely feel he would be happier and find the attention and what he needs from someone else but I am so scared of him doing something I’d regret. What do you think is best to do. Thank you

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SpillingTheTea · 24/11/2020 23:05

Break up with him. You have enough on your plate. You don't need to juggle his MH too.
He's making you stay knowing you're not feeling it anymore.

For the sake of your own MH break up and go NC.
Granted it will be harder as he's your NDN but I wouldn't engage with him or even try and stay friends with him.

He's shown a lot of red flags.

Linzalmond0709 · 25/11/2020 17:15

Thank you

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Aquamarine1029 · 25/11/2020 17:19

Break up with him immediately and don't allow him to manipulate you. His mental health is not your responsibility.

letsmakethishappen · 25/11/2020 17:44

You don’t need his permission to break up with him just do it. Let him do what he wants to do he’s not your responsibility your children are.x

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