Can anyone share positive stories of finding happiness after a really difficult separation?

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Just like the title says really. Struggling tonight and my mind is in overdrive worrying about how I am going to get through separating with soon to be ex DH and adjust to life as a single parent to DS2. I’m feeling pretty low and just hoping by hearing some of your positive stories about how you found happiness after what felt like a real low would help about now.

Just not being with the person who makes you unhappy is a really positive place to be.

But if you want positive stories, I was single for a couple of years after divorcing exH and honestly I look back on that time with positive thoughts. I had two years to find myself, do what I wanted to do and enjoy not having a negative arsehole around my neck every day.

Then I met DH. My time single taught me not to tolerate any shit, and 8 years on he still hasn't put a foot out of place, he's the love of my life and a wonderful father. I couldn't ask for a better partner.

It will be okay, no it will be far better, as long as you allow it to be.

I remember crying to my mum, saying I would never find anyone else especially as I had a (just) 1 year old. But I did and I've now been happily married for 30 years. I know someone else who was devastated when she found out her husband was having an affair. But 10 years on she's been in a wonderfully happy marriage. It's hard when you are in the depths of despair with what is going on to try and think of happier times, but they will come. Just take your time building a new life with your son and allow things to happen.

Me! I was on antidepressants, sleeping tablets, looking after my 3DC, working full time and trying to doing it all solo after my exH disappeared one day and never returned. I honestly couldn’t see an end or a way out of the drudgery, it was like Groundhog Day, but I kept plodding on for the children’s sake. Then a friend suggested I join Bumble, against my better judgement I did so. I matched with the most gorgeous man I’ve ever seen, who, as luck would have it, worked a few minutes away from me, has two beautiful DDs who have rapidly become part of my family, he has now moved in with me, along with his eldest - and we are SO happy. Honesty, although it probably doesn’t seem that way right now, there are happier times ahead

Thank you so much for sharing your stories. You’ve given me some positivity to try and focus on - I’m trying to focus on one day at a time and remember that this feeling I hope won’t last forever.

It’s impossible to imagine it right now, but there are positive times ahead - just keep going