Hi everyone,
I really need to vent/need some advice.
My dad has always been quite selfish. When I was younger, I didnt really notice it but he’s always been a person that prioritises going to the pub with his mates over spending time with us. My mother has put up with it for years but they have clashed about it numerous times. His behaviour doesnt change.
I love my dad obviously but since having my own childrwn it bothers me so much. If we go to their house for sunday dinner which isnt often (we’re in a bubble but still not frequent) he spends most of the day at the pub! Like cant he make an exception to spend time with his children/grandchildren!!
He came back recently quite drunk and started sharpening a knife to carve the meat near where my young toddler was playing. I got really anxious & told him to move but he barely reacted to me 😔he just shrugged it off.
I do feel he has a problem with alcohol but I cant tell if its addiction or a habit. He is very stuck in his ways. I find him difficult to be around when he is like that. Im just so angry at him and know I cant really bring it up with him as he will just not discuss it.
There are reasons he is like he is but I’m just struggling to keep making excuses for him.