I've reached my limit. I have so much resentment towards him. I don't know if I'm depressed again or is he a lazy, irritating item in this house. He's had the majority of this year on furlough , I work p/t from home, and have 4yo. He spends his entire day in the spare room 'office' sighing, and on his phone, laptop, doing hobbies I don't even know, appears to makes his own lunch and then goes away again. He has done no major projects, no DIY, not exercised, nothing. I have encouraged him to go out etc, asked if he felt down. I wish he could go back to work, but even then he just complains about everything being so hard and tiring and painful on his knees (but refuses to help himself physio wise). We have had many arguments about chores and him pulling his weight . He is the type that would only do a wash if he were to run out of clothes, only go shopping if he were hungry. Infuriates me. Why do I constantly have to ask him to do things? I don't see the point in him sometimes, he just angers me. I'm stressed with work, I do all of the things with 4yo and run the house (not his DC). Things were different a year ago, we saw much less of each other and enjoyed our evenings together. This year has been a real eye opener, will it get better? I honestly don't know what to do. He knows how I feel but keeps saying in a high pitched voice "I've not done anything wrong!" So here I am questioning my feelings, am I a horrible , irritated cow? am I depressed? Is it 2020? Or is he lazy, which is unattractive to me