Best way to get over a breakup?

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I have been in and out of relationships for around 5 years now. None of them have lasted longer than 8 months, but each that ended has left me feeling really heartbroken once they end. My go to way was usually cry it out then try and find someone new, but with that it means I only date other people to get over the previous person, which isn't fair on them and means I don't experience being single for very long.

I was broken up with recently and I have decided I 100% need to work on myself and stay single for a while. From this, does anyone have any solid advice that helped them get over someone that doesn't involve finding another relationship again?

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Focus on you eat well, sleep well, exercise, take up hobbies you've always wanted to do. Make sure you are busy most of the time xx

You've taken the first step in admitting what you need to do. The only way is up now

I don't have much advice on getting over a relationship OP. I just wanted to say I'm in the same boat. My Ex left me in February after 7 years together. He's a prick and I'm better off without but I can't stop loving him.

I've found that doing things for myself really help. Exercise, meditation, pamper nights, dancing around the kitchen, whatever floats your boat. Just think about you for a change. You don't need a relationship to be happy, you just need inner happiness.

I hope this helped, and maybe I should start taking my own advice again. You'll get through it, sometimes it just takes longer than we would like it to.

Thank you all for your messages!

@WhatInTheHell I really hope you start to feel better soon, wishing you all the best x

Many years ago I was in a similar breakup situation. I came across an article by Paul McKenna (the hypnotist) who taught a technique whereby you imagined the other person's face slowly fading to grey. I think another exercise was thinking of the person, then slowly backing away (in your mind) so they became smaller and smaller. That's the gist of it and I can't remember all the details, but it worked for me. The article might still be around if you have a google.

@wetglasswithbubbles I'm hoping to see a friend in the new year, but will have to take transport by myself so I guess that kind of counts lol

@thenightsky I'll take a look, thank you :)

There are loads of Paul McKenna clips on YouTube about positivity and break ups. Have a search for them and forget this guy!

Sounds negative and non feminist but if I know the reason I was dumped I work on that
Fat = lost weight
Less educated that him = got myself an Ma
Shared too much at start of relationship = became more mysterious
I analysed if it was me lacking in some way or them being a dick if me I worked on it, I also got out dating again
The old saying "get under one to get over one ". Works for me but not for everyone

@nitsandwormsdodger I get what you mean, I don't think that sounds negative at all. It didn't work out as I was quite reluctant and distant in the beginning due to something traumatic that I had only just started to remember, and he couldn't get past that really. I did change but I guess he just put a wall up or something like that. I don't blame him for it really. However I've started therapy with a lady that I click with so hopefully that will help!

@HollowTalk I'll take a look :)