Last December I met someone through a mutual friend. We really hit it off and we went out a few times over the next month and it was going well. He was in the middle of getting divorced and he’s got two children. He told me that he and his wife had split in the August, because he had had an affair. He told me that he expected that he and his mistress would be together, but as it turned out the mistress didn’t leave her husband, so when I met him he was single.
Anyway, at the end of January, on a date where I thought everything was going well, he told me that the mistress had been back in touch, and that they’d been for a drink and she’d told him she still loved him, and that this time she was definitely leaving her husband and wanted to be with him, and he said that, however much he liked me, he had to try and make a go of it with her. I was annoyed and disappointed, and told him it was plain as day that she’d got back in touch once she’d heard that he’d moved on with someone else, but I’d only known him a few weeks so that was that.
Anyway, I bumped into him again in February and lo and behold, of course his mistress hadn’t left her husband and I ‘had been right’. He did pass through my mind quite a few times after that, but I didn’t speak to him again till September when I got a message from him out of the blue asking how I was. We’ve been texting since, and he’s asked if I want to go on a (obviously socially distanced) walk one morning next week.
Am I being stupid for even considering seeing him again, when I know he cheated on his wife and has already dumped me once? I feel like I am being, but I’ve been single (excluding flings) for 12 years and he’s the first person in that time who I’ve met and really could see myself being with.