If your children haven't seen their Dad for months..

[Pebbledashery]

Then suddenly saw them after contact was resumed...
How did they react? Did they cry? Did they go to them straight away?
DD saw her dad for the first time yesterday after nearly 6 months.. She cried to start off with but it was then reported back that contact went OK. Just interested in knowing how others children reacted when they saw their fathers for the first time after a while of no contact.

That's so bad

I wish they ordered d v course prior to any contact

It just seems so wrong

@Pebbledashery

Its supervised in the community until we have fact finding which is around May or June time.. I'm wondering whether to ask my solicitor to change Barrister. Although she was very good, she's a junior barrister.. Now I know what I'm up against with my ex I think I would feel confident with someone who had a bit more aggression. My legal aid covers the cost of a slightly more senior barrister.. Just need to hope he's ordered to do a DVPP before contact is progressed. His solicitor sent the court bundle the day before the hearing and didn't put any of my documents in there at all. It was so underhanded.

get the best barrister you can afford to get.

This hearing could set the tone for contact for a very very long time

I just feel defeated already. I can't compete with the Barrister he has as I'm legally aided. @carly2803 don't actually agree with you because if they find fact in my favour he is violent and abusive that will go towards the section 7. This independent social worker is a wild card.

This is short term

Let's hope the court goes in your favour
And the truth comes out

Don't lose hope

Xxxx

I hope so. There's nothing I can do until fact finding now. We have a pre trial in February.. Its possible we can ask for people to give evidence such as the social worker or cafcass officer.. I hope so anyway.

@Pebbledashery I hope social services work in your favour here

@LiG123 I'm still in contact with the social worker she's brilliant.. She wrote a children's and family assessment where she documented all of the abuse since the day I found out I was pregnant. One of the hearings directions is full disclosure of that assessment as well as our 230 pages plus of police history.. My ex is trying to challenge what's been written in that children's and families assessment as there's a lot of information pertaining to domestic abuse in there.

I feel positive for you that this'll all work out @Pebbledashery

I hope so. You know what's so textbook. He put the court application in a few days after receiving the child maintenance letter.. Getting a lives with or shared care means he has to pay no maintenance. Its so transparent.

And just to add

He will challenge all your evidence
Mine challenged a doctors report on the day he tried to kill me
As if the dr was colluding with me so we both made up lies !!!

Keep a diary of how your innocent little one is before and after contact
Could be also useful xx

Yeah the solicitor said to keep a contact diary which I can present to cafcass when or if the section 7 is ordered. Its hard because she's only a little and my first child a lot of what she's going through could be developmental or a trigger you just don't know.