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Am I overthinking this?

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momtoboys · 23/11/2020 18:53

Yesterday I went and sat at our family computer which I rarely use. I do almost everything on my phone or laptop. DH uses the family computer everyday and it is in our den which is in the center of the house. When I sat down he kind of rushed up behind me, put his hands on my shoulders and said "what are you looking at?" It seemed like he was nervous. He saw what I was looking at - I was on his FB page because that was what was on the screen when I sat down and I hadn't even had time to pull up another page I wanted to look at. He walked away and a minute later the computer went black and the electricity in some of the house went out (which happens sometimes). He also happened to be in the basement where the fuse box is and was able to turn it back on quickly. It has been niggling in the back of my mind that maybe he turned off the electricity so the computer would go off and I couldn't see something? Is that crazy? In 24 years he has NEVER done anything that would cause me to think something inappropriate is going on. And if it were, do you think it would be going on in the middle of the house on a Sunday afternoon when we are all in/out of every room?

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TMIincoming · 23/11/2020 19:57

@Aquamarine1029

This was not about some Christmas presents. He was in full panic mode.
Wow. You have a camera in their house?
BessieSurtees · 23/11/2020 20:08

I would hope he didn’t have anything dodgy on a family computer.

momtoboys · 23/11/2020 20:21

Honest to God, there has never been one reason for me to question anything like this in 24 years. He does sneak and buy me presents sometimes and maybe that was it. His FB will be up again tonight. I'm going to take a peak at his messages. However, I guess he could have deleted them if there was anything.

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momtoboys · 23/11/2020 20:22

Me too, Bessie.

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Crazybirdlady · 23/11/2020 20:28

It might not necessarily have been the tab he had open with fb.
Can you just check the history and see what he was looking at

doodles17 · 23/11/2020 20:34

In the whole 14 years Iv been with my husband he's never given me anything to be suspicious about either, Iv always had access to his phone and messages etc but I still saw a message that went over the line to someone at his work, this is a guy that everyone thinks is the most decent guy they've ever met and worships the ground I walk on- he still managed it - even if it was just a flirty banter text it still happened, blokes are very odd and I honestly think there's a twat side to them all. It still makes me feel sick and hurts , as I never thought it would happen to me.

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