Does separation make them see sense

[Amirahunts]

Would like others experiences or advice

So today after many years of feeling miserable around 2 years i managed to get the courage to tell husband to leave. He and i didnt want to do down the trial separation route cause i believe that just gives him a chance to mess around tbf and he would just think its nothing she just wants space. So ive just told him to leave and done. his making no effort, no affection, no time and lack of respect after me telling him this over and over.

I feel like if he thinks this is it he will know she's serious and he may start realising. He knows im very forgiving. I cant forgive no more i need to start taking care of my heart. I do love him very much and have told my self if he cares he will do everything to make that effort to come back to our lifes (he dont know this) (if he has any love for me after knowing she's talking business he will do it. He loves the house i made into a home) i also told myself If he doesn't then it's still ok at least il know where my place in his life was.

Did i do right? Honestly This has been such a hard route for me to take, i tried talking but nothing. I've not told his or my family
Im just very scared about the future, how will the kids cope, all 3 are under 5 and just feel like i lost my best friend, i gave him my all he just didn't think the same of me i guess.

Does separation make them see sense?

Not always bug you’ve done the right thing. Don’t pin your hopes on him coming back though.

I wouldn't pin your hopes on it. I tried that and he went off with someone else

Unfortunately in my case my ExH became an emotionally manipulative and bullying twit after I told him I had doubts about our relationship. Situation quickly deteriorated further after I decided I wanted a divorce.
I'm sorry OP perhaps your situation will turn out differently if that's what you want?
If this does turn out to be the end of your relationship take time to adjust - look after yourself and take one step at a time. You will be ok

@NewYearHere20 ah im sorry i hope you also find your happy ending.. Im just hoping this will help him see sense but i am very cautious of whether he gets with someone else, lies about that n returns. Just a shitty situation but ive tried anything so not much options i have left

In my experience if anyone calls a separation to try and get them to see sense it usually backfires. You have called to split so you must now make a new life for yourself and move forward. You say you have tried to talk and he just doesn't acknowledge and change. A split wont help much I am afraid. You have a lot on your plate and if this is your last option then its time to move on.