Hi all I’m
Having a really awful morning
I’m currently living with my husband who I recently told I wanted to separate, and our 3 kids, due to being posted abroad with his job, we return to the uk in a few months. We’ve been separated for 3 months now and he is not taking it well. I don’t want to be with him due to his anger outbursts, and is emotional coercive behaviour. He knows this and he accepts that he was wrong in some situations but doesn’t accept that that’s why I want to leave, it’s not a good enough excuse. He thinks I have another man. Anyway today is my daughters birthday so we both took the kids to school. I try my hardest to keep everything civil and nice for the kids sake. Anyway on the walk home he asked me if it was my final year with open uni,,,I said yes. And he replied all those years of time effort and money and I won’t even get to see you graduate. Me knowing he was looking for an argument tried to keep it jokey and said well at least it wasn’t your time effort and money and laughed. He got mad and started saying it Will be my money though when you’re living in my house (I was planning on moving into the house and possibly buying him out) so I said oh I won’t move in then I’ll get somewhere else. To which he replied it’s all your fault you did this. So I said I can’t stay here for another few months if I’ve gotta keep Going through this all the time and he went off, it’s my fault, I did this, took his life away, took everything off of him. So I said ok I’m going to go for a walk I don’t want to be in the house with you while you’re like this and as i was waking away he’s saying oh I bet you’re going to meet your other man and slammed the door and I could here I’m shouting something in the house!
Is this a normal reaction of a man that’s hurt? Should i put up with it since I’m the one who did this?