Hey
So my baby is 6 weeks old (early days, I know) but since she's been born me and my partner are reeeeally not getting on.
Disclaimer! I love him to bits and this is mainly a huuuge rant.
Just to give some context, we've been together for 7.5 years and married for 3. We became very strong throughout these years. He struggles hugely with his mental health and that has caused issues for us, which we've worked on. I don't blame him for the issues he has, we've worked together on this. (It would take a hell of alot of time to explain the issues in detail - but basically, we've come a long way).
Now that our daughter has been born, we are obviously exhausted. We are snapping at each other all the time and we're both very sensitive. I'm also feeling extreme rage - not sure if this is some sort of ppd.
Because of his mental health issues, he needs routine and structure and he's been able to lean on me for support. Now that baby is born he hasn't got that as much and he's struggling.
He's back at work - he gets a full sleep between say 11-6.30 with maybe a stir in the night, but I do the night feeds and have her all day. When he comes home from work he usually has an hour to himself then has her off me so I can catch up on sleep.
I then get up and cook and clean, bath myself then her and go to bed again after her last feed. At this point I get about 4 hours before she's up for the night feed again.
When we're around together, eg weekends, we both take some time to sleep etc. But I spend my time in between looking after her, cooking and cleaning. We've argued about him cleaning for years 🙄 I cba to even get into that. He never thinks to do it.
Sometimes if I've gone back to bed I'll come back down and he's done nothing other than Look after her - which in itself would be consuming. However he sometimes will say 'yeah she's slept all morning'. Okay what have you done then??
Then he storms around the house when he's tired and Huff's and is funny with me as if ivd done something wrong.
We argue over everything at the minute and honestly I'm exhausted.
At the moment I should be sleeping but he's got up this morning saying he's so sick of being tired (saying it to me as if I'm making him tired) and slamming the door taking her downstairs after I've had 3 hours sleep with the night feed and he's had 6. I know it's not a competition but honestly is that a joke!? I'm lay in bed absolutely raging and it won't wear off
Imo he should expect to be tired and not direct his shit at me
Maybe just needed to rant. Any replies would be appreciated