Partner denies cheating

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Almost a year ago my partner was accused of cheating on me while drunk, the woman involved told me a few things that seemed like it had to have happened for her to know those intimate details about my partner. He has always denied it happened but can't give any explanation for how she knew these things. There's been a few times that it has come up again within his friends group stating that it did happen. I'm so confused, I try so hard to move on & truly don't know what to believe anymore, if he has been unfaithful he knows i will leave him immediately. I keep imagining him with her & it is slowly poisoning our relationship, how do I love on when I don't know the truth

So she told you personal and intimate details and his friends say it happened ?

It happened

The truth is kind of obvious..
" If he has been unfaithful he knows I will leave him immediately "
Of course he isn't going to admit it. He wants to have his cake and eat it.

Sorry if that seems blunt op.

" If he has been unfaithful he knows I will leave him immediately

But you didn’t! You’ve been told by the OW what happened and by his own friends, yet you’ve stayed.

Why would you expect a lying cheater to Tell anything other than lies?

It sounds like it happened

i think you know in your gut the truth you just dont want to fave it

His friends have denied it happened to my face but for some reason people like to bring it back up & start the rumours going again. To put in context why I doubted the woman, she's got MH issues, had 7 children taken away from her & was unhappy in her relationship. My battle with leaving him is what if he is telling the truth, until this happened I totally trusted him, maybe I'm being naive, I really can't think rationally about this anymore

His friends don't sound very trustworthy as they're either lying to you or lying behind your back.

I don't think her personal circumstances are a reason to disbelieve her, if she can describe things that she could only have known by being with him then she's probably telling the truth.

Why do people always say "he knows he'll be gone if he cheats on me" etc. and then go on to torture themselves and choose to believe the least obvious explanation and make excuses for him.

He cheated OP. You know it, he knows it, everybody else knows it and what's more, he knows you didn't leave so it's ok 👌🏽