So ive decided me and Dh should separate due 2 us just having commutation problems, hes all about work work work and never seems to really bother with me, feel like he makes lies which then lead to trust issues on my part and i think its becoming very tiring and distructive. Ive been dealing with no affection for a long time. We had our kids young around 22 then 25 and we are now 26.
Dh says he loves me alot and so do i but on his part its all talk no effort. Surely love should make you feel adored. Should be fun, should be alot more happy times then sad
I cant seem to trust Dh anymore and just dont feel very loved. I think everything he does day to day is a lie. Hes told me he will make an effort but he always makes effort for a day or two and were back to square one.
I just want to be away from him
How can we deal with how we will live in the same house? How do i deal with arrangements. I feel like the more hes near me the more im letting him see its still all fine with us. I just go back to loving him but the underlying issue remains. He gets on with himself, his work, his life outside home when im left feeling broken. I cant move out as i have little kids and he doesnt want to either. I have told him its easier foe him to then it is for me as of the kids but its still no from his part or somewhat says he will go but never gets down to it and actually leaves. Has anyone been in this situation before. My head feels in a rut its a cycle of not knowing what to do next.
Should i cut contact of him
Should i respond to him unless its about the kids
Should i sit around him when hes here
Its so difficult. I hate this uncertainty feeling of not knowing. He just thinks im never serious and il get over the issues sooner or later.