Trapped in lockdown

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He’s never been physically violent yet I’m sat here in tears after him pretending yet again he’s done nothing wrong after verbally laying into me earlier.
I can’t remember the words he said in detail it’s the vitriol that tears right through me. My life is a mess.....

What are your options? I hope things improve for you

@SunInTheSkyYouKnowHowIFeel

What are your options? I hope things improve for you

I don’t have any options due to the visa I’m on, I’m not entitled to any government support.

There is provision in the legislation which allows you to leave your home in cases of abuse. It is a specific exemption to the lockdown rules. If you are vulnerable and frightened I believe you can go elsewhere. You aren't imprisoned with him.

Have you anyone you can go to? Or call Women's Aid.

What visa are you on, can you not see an immigration lawyer?. Are you in the UK?. If so there is help out there for you, do not think there are no options to leave your abuser.

There may still be support you can access from charities etc, even if its not governement benefits? Are you part of a church or anything that could help? It must be tricky being on that type of visa as can see it would limit your options. Is going to your original country and option, or asking family oversees for support? Are you working?
If you want to leave perhaps it would be helpful to work out a plan of action, even if you cant leave right now you could work towards it?

This sounds difficult ❤️.
What visa are you on. Do you have family or friends nearby?

It’s all a bit complex but I made contact with a family lawyer in my home country to find out the “lay of the land”.They asked me for a description of the situation after my initial email and never bothered getting back in touch. Kept the email as facts without bringing in emotions. I can only assume it was put in the too hard basket. Tied into current rental contact until August 2021.

All this over me “daring” to question him over something home related he was doing.

Do you have children?

Are you sure you can't get out of the rental contract until next August? Shelter the housing charity may be able to advise you on that in case there is a loophole

Keep trying op

@RandomMess

Do you have children?

Yes and bless one of them tried sticking up for me to him. Told him he was behaving like a 2 year old. Still in primary school and wiser than a grown adult.

There must be a way to get out of this situation. You shouldn’t have to put up with being treated like this. Are you married? Do the kids have UK passports?

I think you can get free legal advice if there is DV in the home. Verbal abuse is DV

I will try and contact women’s aid but with lockdown in place he never leaves the house so it will be tricky.