It's been over a year since I said that things need to change. I'm late 30s and I dont want to live the rest of my life in a sexless marriage. I was low but got help. I've been working with my own therapist for a year. It's hard and draining. In the summer I pushed for couples counselling which my DW did eventually agree with. I pushed on with that but it lost momentum and my wife became uninterested.
We never chat, we have poor communication. My wife says that some of the issues I have raised are painting her as abusive and it's not fair. She admitted in counselling that she has anger issues and is controlling.
I know I need to end it but I cant find the energy. I've got nothing left.....
She spent all day at friends, came home and watched tv. All she asked was how much cleaning I had managed to get done. I was cooking dinner at the time. She is very successful with her job and will work tomorrow on her job. She works for half a day most weekends.
A year ago when I said I felt lonely and felt she prioritised her friends over me she screamed, walked off in tears and slammed the door in my face. When I told she prioritised work over me she said in was a hypocrite as one day last year I'd worked a weekend.
I've just got nothing left and staying and shutting up is just the easiest thing right now.